Adult bed wetting

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My husband is in his early 30s and is too embarrassed to go to the doctors but I'm getting so frustrated and really put off him!

For the past 2 months he has been wetting the bed almost bi weekly and im getting so annoyed at having to change the sheets constantly and that he isn't going to the doctor to see if something is wrong with him. I've tried googling but nothing really is coming up.

Anyone have any ideas why this has suddenly started happening?

It could be any number of things, some quite serious so he needs to see a doctor
nafc.org/adult-bedwetting/

Probably just stress and now getting into a pattern but he really must go to the doctors as could be a simple fix or some investigation might be needed. Their is medication he can take depending on why he's doing it. Also why are you changing the sheets, his mess that he's doing nothing to prevent so he can clean it

Yes he needs to see a doctor.
And HE needs to change the bed not you.

Go and buy him some male incontinence pants.

Then have a real chat to him about it. Suddenly bed wetting isn't normal and he needs to see a GP.

I imagine he's pretty embarrassed by it, but the GP will have seen this before. Perhaps see if there is an embarrassing bodies episode about something similar.

Oh he definitely changes the sheets, I meant I'm getting annoyed at having the sheets changed constantly or being woken up in the middle of the night so he can change the sheets and mattress protector, when i usually only wash them once a week or once a fortnight.

Reframe it. Tell him you know he's embarrassed, but there's no need to be ashamed.

Then ask him what he expects to happen if he continues to ignore it.

Any symptoms of t1 diabetes?

Adult bedwetting usually has an underlying cause and it could be serious, so he really does need to get it checked out. My late husband had a period of it (not helped by excess alcohol use admittedly) and he turned out to have kidney stones, one of which was very large.

Was going to say type 1 that’s how my ds got diagnosed i was convinced had urine infection as he had never wet bed before. Went to GP and within hour he was in hospital with drip in his arm. Very urgent if type 1 needs get blood test to rule it out. Look at diabetes uk for list symptoms. Covid has triggered a lot of extra type 1 cases

I would be very worried about this - I've no medical knowledge- get him to see a doctor

@QueenSmartypants great advice there, I will say this to him

He is almost 100kg and his mum has diabetes too, I did see diabetes come up on my google search.

Great advice everyone

Oops name change fail 🤣

Agree diabetes and he needs to seethe GP asap. Any chance he is drinking?? This is how we found out my brother was an alcoholic.. he kept wetting the bed and when he did it on my mums sofa there was no hiding it anymore and all was revealed x

I soak myself several times a day and in the mornings I am soaking, Would you know it? nope as I deal with it the best I can. Ignoring it doesn't help,

He needs to see the GP as its not going to get any better on its own,

There is medication (Im currently taking Solifencian), I use pads and tie them up in nappy bags and double bag for outside bins, I use cream to stop skin getting irritated, I drink loads so that the urine is lighter and less acidic, I use kylie sheets on the bed so that it absorbs any leakage and then put in the wash, Ive had urodyamics, pelvic physio, regular bladder scans and will do absolutely anything i have to manage it. I hate it but I deal with it as no other choice, mine is caused by very confused signals and by the time I get the signal that I need to go, Ive already been, Is it embarrassing, yes. Friends are used to me nipping to the bathroom and then nipping out to the bins, close friends are used to me arriving at the house with a rucksack and changing clothes during my visit,

I'm sorry to hear of your situation but you seem to have a good attitude about it. I hope you can find some sort of resolution to your problem as it sounds a very unpleasant way to live.

Its been 12 years now for me, Im on the list for bladder botox. I self cath when needed,

He needs to go to the GP, its nothing a GP hasn't heard before and they will be about to do basic testing to rule things out and go from there, Gps spend years training so adult enurisis is nothing to them,

However my partner and I sleep in separate beds as I refuse to let him possibly roll over onto a wet kylie sheet as the idea of lying in another person's urine is awful to me so I refuse to have the possibility of him turning over into it, we still share the same room,.

Your husband probably isn't feeling good about this but he needs to face up to it that something is wrong and its not going away on its own

Thank you @Florissant . It's just a fact of life for me. Ive had to face up to it and it apart from bringing changes of clothes / pads/ cream etc. I put a wash load on daily but other than that I refuse to let it affect other aspects of my life. My bowel has gone the same way as no signals or incorrect signals, Same deal.

I assume as you haven't mentioned it he doesn't misuse alcohol or take sleeping pills preventing him waking up in time?

No he doesn't drink and no sleeping pills. Although he is a very deep sleeper and snores like a freight train. But he could go toilet a couple or hours before then wet the bed then wake up a could of hours later urinate again as if he was holding it in all night. I just don't get where all this pee comes from especially when he doesnt drink anything before bed or during the night. So odd to me.

Peeing prequently and his weight are both very strong diabetes indicators, so is his family history. Would he consider taking his blood sugar at home, after a meal? Maybe his mum could lend him a test kit? Just as an indication and absolutely not in place of medical advice?

Frequently!

He needs to be seen by a doctor, I’d be scared stiff if it happened to me. Once you know what it is you can deal with it a bit better.

So I asked him gently today if he would like me to book him a doctors appointment and that I know he is probably embarrassed but we need to rule out that there's nothing serious and he got all defensive and mad (obviously masking his embarrassment).
I can't force a grown man to go to the doctors so Im going to wait and see if it happens again then try to make him realise he needs help. Maybe even purchase some adult nappies in the mean time to let him know I'm serious about it.

I'm in Australia also so doctors appointments are free here so it's not a cost factor he's definitely embarrassed about it all.