Now I get why you turned lesbian! 🙄

[TexLex]

Hello,

So 3 people have said this to me over the past few months and it's driving me a bit mad.

With so much shocking news about men recently, I've had this comment thrown at me several times. A couple have said it more than once and it's really starting to bug me.

Firstly, I am not a lesbian. If I had to give myself a label, I'd say I was bisexual, but I am married to a woman. I am still attracted to men. My friends know this. Anyway, what does this comment mean? Dw, who has had the same comments previously, gets particularly offended, because she is a lesbian and never turned. She just is. She isn't gay because there are lots of horrible men around. She is just not attracted to them. Never has been.

As I said, my friends (and mum) who are saying this know I'm not a lesbian. Can they really not see how offensive this is?

I didn't make a decision to find women attractive because I was sick of men.

Anyway, just having a little rant really. Be interesting to hear if anyone else (gay/bi etc) have received this kind of infuriating comment before.

Please do put up the screen shots.

Please don't. Could the two of you stop me-railing the OP's thread?

@MrsTerryPratchett

Understood 👍

Over and out.

Thanks!

Unfortunately some people are just idiots.

Why does it matter so much?

Are you worried it’ll harm your chances with men if they think you’re off the table?

🤦🏻‍♀️

@CrumpetObsession sometimes an emoji says it all. Thanks.

I think the pp was right to bring it up. It’s not detailing if it’s relevant. I saw the thread, I think I posted on it before it was zapped. When a poster seems to have form for making light of the experiences faced by others who face prejudices every day, it’s relevant to point it out when they do it on another thread.

Don't put up the screenshots pp, the poster probably knows you will get banned.

OP, my cousin is bisexual and is used to these comments and being told it’s no big deal if she tells people their attitude is bad. She hates that her sexuality is up for discussion in any situation and it gets boring!

No problem. Love a good emoji, there’s usually one for every occasion. Some people are not worth wasting words on.

I think some sometimes people think that relationships with women aren't 'real' and thus are easily dismissed as a phase or something people try out. People use flowery language around sex, (women don't fuck they make love.) and might have similar notions about a nice, genteel relationship with women that's more akin to a friendship. (As if it's all sunshine and rainbows and women can't be horrid to each other)

There is some truth to the notion that women are more likely to experiment or be more flexible with their sexuality. A study showed that men get aroused by straight or gay porn in accordance to their perceived sexuality quite consistently, whereas women get a least a bit aroused by... everything.

However, to suggest that it's easy going or, to quote many men throughout my life, that you haven't found the right cock yet, 😡is oversimplification and not on. I'd gently tell a friend that, and less gently tell anybody else.

Thanks for proving my point.