Feeling exhausted 😩

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Think I'm probably just moaning over nothing but I'm feeling absolutely done in!

Currently half way through pregnancy with second baby, working 4 days a week and I have one day a week off with DD1 who is 1. The days off are usually spent at playgroups or soft play etc which I enjoy going to and I love my days off with DD. It just gets to the end of the day and I feel exhausted from all of the running around we do!

I'm trying to be conscious of weight gain in this pregnancy so trying to eat healthy and excercise which seems impossible to fit in with work days especially. Exercise at weekends is almost doable but the only exercise is usually a family dog walk in the countryside.

There seems to be an endless stream of washing on the spare bed that never seems to get sorted, despite having a housekeeper who just does laundry for 2hrs, we also have a cleaner 3 days a week for 3 hours, but still feels like we are chasing our tail.

I just feel like I'm drowning at the moment with the mental load of life admin, work, mental shopping lists, mental meal planning and everything else. My husband works away long hours in the week so all down to me at the same time as working myself, plus everything else. But he does do a lot at the weekends!

Can someone tell me the secret to working, growing a human, looking after another small human, cooking healthy meals, exercising, cleaning, putting washing away all without feeling exhausted by 11am!

It sounds like you need a week off to get some stuff done to make your life easier like the life admin etc. You then perhaps need to think about dropping to 3 days per week work.
I am also wondering op how much pressure you are putting on yourself to be perfect.
life with young kids and dogs can be such a slog. A million jobs. If you tend toward perfectionism it can be a recipe for burnout and depression and anxiety.
having a partner away during the week can also be lonely and feeling like you are not switching off.
I fin these days I am getting less perfectionist, more ruthless and more selfish about self care.

With the support you've described, I am thinking that you have a lot of dispersible income (might be being spent mostly on the help).

So I imagine that you may have lots of clothes and lots of toys. I would consider minimalism. For example, putting in boxes and storage all but the most played with toys. The the 'staple clothes'. If you can, take time off and label everything well so you can access bits that you miss.

Let's stuff means less tidying done daily and less stuff to sort out (if it's been on the spare bed for 2 weeks, you don't need it now).

Also, consider if you can change the house around to make it easier for you right now. I found I was less tired when I moved to a house that worked better for our family. For instance, it had a dinning table in th3 kitchen. And space to put a box of craft stuff so it's easy to clear the table.

That and get your hubby or someone to give you a weekend off or at least an evening off occasionally.