How can I get over my ex?

[Trinityandmadisondrivemeinsane]

Sorry if the title seems somewhat misleading

Background - 3 Dc, 7, 5 and 3

ExDp left me for another woman but they have separated- I was devastated by this as I really did feel he was the love of my life.

Fast forward to now, he stays over regularly, only sees the DCs at mine (he sofa surfs the rest of the time), occasionally we DTD and help each other out financially etc but it all needs to stop, I'm being treated like a mug and he clearly has no respect for me and I don't want to confuse the DC anymore

But why is it so blooming difficult to just stop the feelings and not get caught up in my feelings?

You need to set boundaries as he is completely using you.

You won’t get over him if he is still staying at your and you are sometimes having sex.

Let me make that clear to you, he isn’t making love to you, you are not making love, he is fucking you.

Unless you take control of the situation you will forever be used by him.

It really isn’t right for the children and as much as it would hurt, that would be my sole focus.
Make the hard decisions and then keep busy! It’s a loss so you’re allowed to grieve that loss, so I’d be open with family and friends and allow them to help you get through this. You deserve better.

BOUNDARIES! Sit down with a piece of paper, and write it out. Exactly how you want things to be. The negatives and all the angry thoughts of how appallingly he's treated you. Read it regularly. Stop the sleepovers. Remove the temptation. Take back control. You deserve FAR more than this sad prick who is currently having his cake and eating it. Remind yourself that there is life after this. Because there is life after this. Sometimes good,.s I'm sometimes bad, sometimes so amazing that you will have to pinch yourself. But the way things are now there's only half dreams and disappointments and anger and momentary lust and sad memories and resentment. Take. Back. Control. You deserve it. He deserves none of your time and energy.