Kissing baby- would you allow?

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Hi all, anyone had any trouble with their family/ friends keep kissing your baby even though you have told them not to?

We have a 5 month old daughter who has been ill for the past month with broncolitus and RSV, we don't know where she got it from and don't want to obviously point fingers but we put two and two together with the kissing. It's particularly on her hands and then DD will put her hands in her mouth... along with sometimes kissing her face (cheeks).

Am I being OTT to tell people to stop it? I have told a couple of family me members already a couple of times and I get strange looks and am told I am depriving the grandparents of showing affection?

I'd allow it, as long as its not on the mouth.
She's more likely picking up these bugs in the air rather than off her hands.

Thanks @ofwarren it's close to mouth although yes not directly on it. She has been so poorly twice in the space of 2 months.

We have relatives who need frequent reminders.
We were worried about Coldsore virus (some of our family members are known to be frequent sufferers) and we had to be very blunt and say that the herpes virus can kill babies so could they not kiss her!

I've never minded anyone kissing my babies.

We don't allow it

No kissing is a bizarre rule, unless the person has an active cold sore. As PP said, many of these childhood viruses are airborne anyway. You could not have anyone see her, ever, and she might not get sick (though could still pick up nasty things from you!), but if you’re going to allow visitors, then allowing a little peck on her head, cheek or hand is unlikely to cause grievous bodily harm.

I’m sympathetic, because I’ve also had a revolving door of illness among my 3 DCs for the last year or so (the joys of daycare…), but I do think you’re being way OTT.

@Disgruntledpelicanlady we are never even that blunt but all I ask is no kissing and still get an eye roll. Some relatives accept and some don't.

I personally wouldn't allow it. They can hug her to show affection. No need to put her at risk for the sake of kisses.

@UpToMyElbowsInDiapers unfortunately it's people with colds that still feed the need to kiss

I didn't allow it.

I wouldn't allow people with colds to kiss my baby either.