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Can I share my achievement? Even though it's a worrying one...

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ForFuckSteak · 14/01/2023 23:55

I have officially gone two whole weeks without any booze for the first time in the whole of my adulthood. That's 20 years. Not a drop. I was determined to do DJ last year and failed by day 8. I almost binned it at 6pm tonight and traipsed off to the offy but I didn't and by 8pm the urge was totally gone. If I'd let it grab me I'd be crying my eyes out with shame and guilt right now. Instead I've set my alarm for 8am to get my arse out for a crispy nature walk. I've done a whole fortnight, after three years of digging as far down the wine glass as possible for serenity and ending up with a fuck load of anxiety instead. It's only a little goal, a pathetic one really. But I've done it and hopefully fingers crossed I'll do it next weekend too.

My skin is already clearer 😊

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ofwarren · 14/01/2023 23:56

Oh that's excellent!
Well done you 👏 👍

Glo1988 · 14/01/2023 23:57

WELL DONE!! I’d recommend journaling to record your achievements each day, helps anxiety and gradually you’ll like yourself more. Even if you have a bad day, you can look back on what you are capable of!

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 14/01/2023 23:58

Yay go you!!!! 🎉🎉🎂🎂to celebrate!!!
its an amazing achievement and congratulations!!

Offleyhoo · 14/01/2023 23:58

Well done. I know that is a really big achievement. Keep it up!! So good.

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ForFuckSteak · 15/01/2023 00:00

I've downloaded an app. Apparently after 3 weeks the neurons that develop our intellectual functions start to develop in our brains.

I'll be so clever! 📚

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Namechangedforspooky · 15/01/2023 00:01

Same here. It’s a nice feeling isn’t it? I did it last year too after failing DJ by around day 3 for every year before that. Last year I was determined and ended up doing the full 100 days.
This year is much easier. I don’t drink heavily but definitely too frequently in the evenings and I’m enjoying being more productive with my time rather than feeling too tired to do anything.

Download the Try Dry app. It allows you to keep a running tally of how many calories and how much money you’re saving. I found it hugely motivating!

talkingmorenonsense · 15/01/2023 00:07

It’s not pathetic, it’s amazing! Very well done you. 💐

Girlintheframe · 15/01/2023 00:09

Well done! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

HPLikecraft · 15/01/2023 00:37

Excellent, well done you!
I know it's not easy.

nzeire · 15/01/2023 01:18

Well done!!! Keep going, it’s worth it!

quietnightmare · 15/01/2023 01:20

Wow. Amazing, you have broken that cycle. Keep it up the hardest bit is done now

MeinKraft · 15/01/2023 01:24

Congratulations! Why not join us on the dry January thread if you haven't already! Old habits DRY hard! It's DRY JANUARY thread #2... newcomers always welcome! www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4717411-old-habits-dry-hard-its-dry-january-thread-2-newcomers-always-welcome

Shauna27 · 15/01/2023 01:24

Thats amazing! They say if you get to 21 days your brain chemistry will change and you'll have a 90% chance of beating the addiction entirely. You're already so close to this!! Stay busy and you'll nail this!!

Boringcookingquestion · 15/01/2023 01:26

Congratulations OP, that’s amazing!

Enjoy your hangover-free walk in the morning 🥳

PartySock · 15/01/2023 03:29

Well done! Someone close to me is a sober alcoholic, so I know it's not easy at all. You've done the very hardest bit, which is getting started.

RambamThankyouMam · 15/01/2023 07:19

It's brilliant. I did something similar 10 years ago and life got monumentally better.

EyesOnThePies · 15/01/2023 07:53

Enjoy your walk OP!

I am having coffee also preparing for a crisp walk. I’ll think of you and smile while I’m out.

gemloving · 15/01/2023 07:54

Amazing, well done! Keep going x

HappyKoala56 · 15/01/2023 08:00

Fantastic OP! You have every right to be massively proud. Keep going, you've got this

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ForFuckSteak · 15/01/2023 08:18

Shauna27 · 15/01/2023 01:24

Thats amazing! They say if you get to 21 days your brain chemistry will change and you'll have a 90% chance of beating the addiction entirely. You're already so close to this!! Stay busy and you'll nail this!!

This is amazing, really? I never knew this. Next weekend will be 21 days, however next weekend I have a bunch of friends over so that will be a challenge in itself as they will have a bevvy. However they're not wild, heavy drinkers plus the last time two of them saw me drunk I was smashed drunk and made a total fool of myself so I'll keep thinking of that. I also have made plans I need to stick to on the Sunday morning. This morning the alarm woke me following an uninterrupted sleep (I usually wake up every two hours) and I'm so, so glad I am sober and not fuzzy. No new spot pushing through sweaty bloated cheeks. Today I will be out walking by 11am, I'll cook a nice meal then work some overtime this evening with a clear head...

... feel the morning buzz not the morning fuzz! 😃🤣🚫🍷

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ForFuckSteak · 15/01/2023 08:23

EyesOnThePies · 15/01/2023 07:53

Enjoy your walk OP!

I am having coffee also preparing for a crisp walk. I’ll think of you and smile while I’m out.

I'll think of you too eyes ❤️

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page1of4 · 15/01/2023 08:27

I find when friends come round, a nonalcoholic beer or wine make it look/feel like you're joining in and you're not constantly thinking about it. Maybe give that a go?

VoluptuaSneezelips · 15/01/2023 08:32

It's neither little or pathetic OP. It's a major achievement especially if you have had issues with unhealthy alcohol use in the past. Congratulations and be proud of yourself.

coodawoodashooda · 15/01/2023 08:32

page1of4 · 15/01/2023 08:27

I find when friends come round, a nonalcoholic beer or wine make it look/feel like you're joining in and you're not constantly thinking about it. Maybe give that a go?

This works for me too. We'll done op.

Goodread1 · 15/01/2023 08:34

Hi Op

I think you are already doing brilliantly well, I know how much a challenge this must have been for you,

Give yourself incentives to keep goi, ng by treating yourself to complentary therapies Joining a healthspa etc

Well done