I'm in such a dilemma and cross roads in my life. I'm almost 49. Single mother to 3 teenagers.
Some background...
I'm divorced so finally have all the freedoms and autonomy that I wanted to have for so many years and I'm adoring my single life in many ways..
About 5 months ago I also finished a LTR that was painful break up and since then I've been doing some OLD
.... but locally I just don't meet men in my everyday life and for 2023 I really want to do more social stuff in the real world...
My struggles are this: my social group is mostly made up of women of my age who are married and don't really want to go 'out' out... perhaps a quiet dinner but not to bars /clubs. I have a massive amount of energy and am a very social fun person and feel a huge pull to be out more... in the city I live in, but just don't have the social network or groups that also want to do the same. It's not like it was in my 20s when we were always out as a group of young women.
I have chunks of time where I am teenager free when the kids go to their dads and a massive amount of energy to be social but no where to channel it. Dancing in my kitchen and doing my hobbies mostly fills my time and seeing friends for coffee etC but I have this massive urge to be out out more in the evenings- at least then I might meet real men the old fashioned way...
Any suggestions or gems of advice to help
Me? Im not sure which forum to post this in so chose divorce /separation....
I have 2 other single mothers friends but it's not really their scene...
Grrrr
What to do?