Casual Dating with a prolapse?? (mild TMI)

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I’ve no idea if this belongs in chat, sex or womens health but hoping for more traffic here! Admins please do move if inappropriate. I’ve also NC’d for this

I came out of an 18 year marriage last year and this month finally felt up to throwing myself into online dating. Not necessarily looking for the love of my my life but someone attractive to enjoy spending time with and see where it goes. However, in a spot of quite frankly horrific timing, I have in the last day or so noticed what I suspect is a pretty bad uterine prolapse. I can see it starting to poke out and it feels totally different in there now

Is dating completely out of the question now?? I’m seeing my GP tomorrow but waiting lists in my area for referrals are about a year and I don’t really want to wait that long. Plus I have no idea what the outcome will be. I wouldn’t mind if I was still married as I could obviously have an open conversation about sex built on years of familiarity. But with a date?? Surely it will send most men running a mile for a woman to casually drop in conversation that they have organs falling out their vagina. Yes I know the right man will understand but god knows when or how I will find him.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Are men utterly repulsed by it if you don’t have years of love to fall back on? Shall I just give up?

Feeling pretty sorry for myself now

I waited until I had my prolapse repaired (Mr Slack in TW).
3 years ago. Best thing ever!

in any event, maybe you need a bit of downtime after an 18 year Rel ending a few weeks ago?!

Hi OP, I agree with PP. One thing at a time. Have your GP appt and go from there. Can you consider a private referral?

@Sodamncold sorry probably should have made that clearer, it was the start of last year so almost a year ago

Are you planning on shagging gynaecologists only? I doubt anyone else will notice. Aren't we all different anyway?

I guess that’s my question! Will they notice. I mean I do but I know what it felt like before

@Raspberry290 private would be tricky, in process of buying ex out of house so money is a bit tight

I have a prolapse and my husband can't tell the difference. Mine is the vagina walls and bladder and bowel.
When you like down it kind of goes back slightly to where it should be.
But I know I'd feel nervous too.

I have bladder, bowel and uterine prolapses. My DH can't tell the difference. I believe him because he's the sort of person who'd tell me if he could. When you have sex the prolapses are just pushed back in to place. I'm sure most men wouldn't notice. However, if you're uncomfortable or feeling self conscious then why not wait before you start dating? You could ask for a pessary as an interim (or long term) measure.

Hey guys! Can I ask if any of you have had operations privately how much did they cost? Also can someone tell me how to make my own thread on this?