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I'm so pissed off at feeling wide awake and night and also needing a million wees.

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StarInTheHeavens · 14/01/2023 01:16

When I was young, I would go to bed, close my eyes, and that would be it until morning. Occasionally I'd remember a nice dream. Nowadays, I pee before I get into bed, usually pee again twice more before 1 am and again once or twice before getting up at 6. And I have nasty nightmares too which I hate. And then I feel like a shitty cow the next day. I'm not (pre) diabetic, my pelvic floor is obviously shot to bits. Even if that wasn't an issue, I still can't bloody sleep. Urgh.

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InvincibleInvisibility · 14/01/2023 01:20

No advice but I have the same problem! OTC melatonin helps with getting back to sleep but my bladder wakes me 2-4 times a night every night.

I did read that cutting out added sugar can help but I haven't done it yet (too exhausted!)

Thelnebriati · 14/01/2023 01:24

Cutting out sugar really does help, I only get up once or twice a night now.

Ohgodthepain · 14/01/2023 01:35

I've found I need much less sleep since the menopause, I never feel sleepy either, tired during the day but never sleepy.

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StarInTheHeavens · 14/01/2023 01:51

I don't have any added sugar, my diet is pretty clean. I'm post menopausal though. I suppose I'm going to have to dedicate the rest of my life to bloody pelvic floor exercises.. Hmm

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daemonologie · 14/01/2023 01:53

This is me. Sleep is completely messed up and have to keep getting up for the toilet. Perhaps I'll try and cut out sugar. My diet is not great I suppose.

Insaneinthemembraneee · 14/01/2023 01:55

I'm the opposite if I don't have a teaspoon of sugar added to my cups of tea/coffee I'm up half the night.
I also love a cappuccino before bed! if I don't I have no umph in the morning 😂

polorider · 14/01/2023 01:57

Ohgodthepain · 14/01/2023 01:35

I've found I need much less sleep since the menopause, I never feel sleepy either, tired during the day but never sleepy.

I think that does happen but it also speeds up ageing, I'd prefer to keep my sleep.

mondaytosunday · 14/01/2023 01:57

Try hypopressive exercises (Google it). It's a kind of breathing exercise that creates a vacuum. It helps develops pelvic and abdominal and back muscles. I've been doing them for a few months and find I need to get up less frequently during the night, and my posture is better.

mondaytosunday · 14/01/2023 01:58

They are also like a mini meditation session!

user278654 · 14/01/2023 07:29

I have the same issues. Do not drink after 8pm might help sometimes it works for me.

Vallmo47 · 14/01/2023 07:31

Same here OP. 😡

beeny · 14/01/2023 07:36

Exactly this problems

Amboseli · 14/01/2023 07:37

Same here. Am post menopausal. My sleep has been messed up since I was pregnant with first DC in 2003 and apart from the occasional few months here and there when I sleep well, the vast majority of the time I'm wide awake at night, get up to pee, wake up early and can't sleep.

I think I need to do more exercise. Maybe it will help me to sleep better. I don't know.

honestlyno · 14/01/2023 07:39

I'm not there yet, but have found my nights are always filled with dreams now. It's exhausting. Don't suppose anyone knows how to have a dreamless night?

Tontostitis · 14/01/2023 07:40

Pelvic floor exercises are the way. That and during the day I don't go 'just in case' and I try to wait at least 4 hours between wees.

Enko · 14/01/2023 07:42

Hrt helped with the constant needing to pee issue for me. Still sleeping hit and miss but the bign28 kilo lump of a lapdog gets the blame there last night.
Growling for 30 mins at 1 am.

Dancingtumbleweed · 14/01/2023 07:50

I am exactly the same. The sugar thing probably is a factor. I don't remember it being a problem when I was calorie counting and cutting out the treats. I am already preparing to start the healthy eating again so I will monitor my nightly toilet visits and see if it improves.

goldennotyetoldie · 14/01/2023 07:51

I was like this. Waking up stupidly early and peeing all the time. Now on HRT and I go to sleep, dream and wake up naturally at about 7am.

It's bliss.

I'd forgotten that I hadn't been sleeping deeply enough to dream. My dreams now are epic.

EspeciallyDetermined · 14/01/2023 07:56

I've only ever had to get up once in the night (I am mid 50s). I've been doing hypopressives for years and no caffeine helps too. However I started a keto diet (very low carb) a few months ago and when I stick to it I sleep like a log and don't wake at all.

Goatsanddogs · 14/01/2023 07:59

I have interstitial cystitis so basically an irritated bladder and constantly needing to wee but never completely empties the bladder. Worse at night. I also get constipation and when that is bad the pressure on my bladder is worse . What helps me to sleep and forget about needing to wee is listening to an audio book.

Notcontent · 14/01/2023 08:07

I have the same problem. I used to sleep so well. I am now exactly the same as you OP. Look and feel like shit most days, as I am someone who needs 8 hours sleep to look and feel decent.

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