Is this my anxiety talking?

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So at the school today I was chatting with another mum I see occasionally. I mentioned that I had my youngest at home today unwell.

When I got home I thought omg what if she thought I meant I've left my youngest home alone while I done the school run! Annoyed with myself for just not saying at the time that DH is working from home so luckily didn't have to drag him with me while unwell.

Am I being ridiculous?!

I'm sure I am but I have anxiety and these are the silly things that I have to deal with in my head sometimes. I just can't stand the thought of someone thinking I'm a bad mum or bad person etc.

I would have assumed you'd left them with someone so i wouldn't worry.

Thank you for replying.

If she was concerned she would have asked .

People don't think that much about the logistics of other people's childcare.

So many people work from home now so I'm
Sure she wouldn't give it a second thought.

But more importantly you know you didn't do it and that's all that matters.

I would assume you had someone sit with the child while you went to school.

I often think back over something Ive said in passing and worry that I should have elaborated as people may get the wrong end of the stick!

Totally overthinking honestly x

I’d assume your partner was wfh

It's your anxiety. You sound like me I would be panicking too but trust me it's your anxiety

Thank you all for taking the time to reply. It's terrible worrying all the time!

Yeap to the anxiety talking. What helps me talk myself down is to remember that people really don't think about other people say or do much and if they can be bothered to judge it is fleeting. Anything I say or do will not be analysed by them they way i do to myself.

Tbh it'll probably be forgotten by them 30 seconds later! It's only in the my mind that it sticks and gets picked apart. People just listen and nod and then start thinking about their next food shop or the fact their dc need new shoes. We are all inherently self focused. 😁

That's very true. Thank you. I try to put myself in the other person shoes in the conversation and I know I wouldn't think anything of it.

People do not have time to overthink what I have said the way I do! Just wish I would listen to that logic 😐

Yeh I do this too and I realise the flipside is that I will over explain to avoid feeling how you do right now and then it becomes boring for the other person! My kids are older now but I am trying to work on trusting myself and knowing that I don't have to explain everything and that people will ask if they are concerned. It is so hard tho!

Yes I get that about the over explaining! Our minds will never let us win no matter what we do.

It's ridiculous isn't it really but something that I can't control. I know I'm a good mum and a good person so I try really hard to remind myself of that.

Exactly, and we can't control how someone else hears what we say. One person might let it go and forget instantly, someone else might go into full questioning of our parenting, but as long as we know our kids are safe at home then that is the main thing! I wish there was an off switch sometimes!

I really wish there was an off switch! That would be fantastic wouldn't it.