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2023 has been awful so far

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Winginitt · 12/01/2023 17:07

Lost my mom suddenly this Sunday, 26 weeks pregnant with a baby who has only one functioning kidney (found this out 5 days before she passed), mom didn’t leave us any insurance and had nothing, lived in a council property, most expensive item she owned was a TV and was in her overdraft. She started a 10 year funeral payment plan a year ago, she has paid 10% of it, not anticipating that she’ll die at 51. I have 3 sisters, 1 of them doesn’t work and the rest of us get our wages, pay bills and have very little left afterwards. Now faced with paying for a funeral that is thousands of pounds that we physically cannot do. Have tried to get a loan and been rejected. I am next of kin so suppose responsible and so lost as we’ve never done this before. Worried about dealing with all this and harming my baby but really want my mom to have the best send off possible. :(

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Merlott · 12/01/2023 17:09

Do you think your mum would want you to go into debt to pay for her funeral?

VanillaImpulse · 12/01/2023 17:11

Would you or your sisters be entitled to any help?

www.gov.uk/funeral-payments

Englishash · 12/01/2023 17:16

Your poor love. What an awful situation to find yourself in at such a worrying time for you. Try to look after yourself as added stress won't help your baby. Have you considered applying to local council for a funeral grant? There are obviously criteria to fulfil but it's worth considering. The worry you're carrying must be immense but I'm sure your baby will be fine - doctors can do wonders these days. Stay strong.

BMW6 · 12/01/2023 18:52

Have Mum cremated direct from mortuary then have a get together at your house to celebrate her life and reminice.

Ask siblings and close relatives to chip in if possible. You can give Mum a heartfelt farewell without it costing thousands, honestly.

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