If you're a size 14/16 are you confident in how you look /what u wear

[Frumpymumma]

Basically that.
I always feel frumpy, i think because i buy baggier tops, maybe thats where im going wrong?
Im trying to eat less junk and processed stuff. Id like to lose a stone. But struggle this time of year but have been giving it a good go

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What sort of shape.are you?

Im a 12-14 now but felt pretty good at 14-16 as I had come down from an 18-20. I've still got 2st to go after a long break in my weight loss. I felt like I couldn't add any bulk though, especially on top, as I need definition around the waist plus a flattering neckline.

I think extra baggy tops may be where you're going wrong, especially if worn over skinny/ fitted trousers or leggings. Sorry to say but I think that's quite an unflattering silhouette.

I'm now a 12-14 but was a 14-16 - what made me feel confident was a flattering neckline, brushing my hair and wearing a chunky heel for a bit of height. Same is true now tbh!

All depends on your body shape.
I’m a 16 on top although my bottom half has always been 2 sizes smaller, I’m confident although a lot of that has come with age.
I wear loose fitting tops that skim rather than fit as I don’t want to look like Dolly Parton! A cross body bag across the boobs sort of brings the top in and makes it more flattering. (This can also apply to dresses).
As my hips and legs are slim, I wear skinny jeans which works for me because of my shape.
If one half of your body is dressed in loose fitting clothes, then the other half should be more fitted.
Neck lines are important with big boobs as V necks are more flattering.
Avoid three quarter length sleeves which finish at your Boobs and draw attention to them.
Wear colours that suit you, bright colours will lift your mood. Even jewellery and scarves can be used to give yourself a more finished look.
Be honest about your body shape and google how to dress it.

I'm probably that size now (more towards 16) but I'm not happy with it and hide under baggy dresses.

This week for work I pulled a black size 14 blouse out of the wardrobe and wore it over black trousers with flats. Three seperate people asked me if I had lost weight (I haven't).

I'm a size 16 at the moment and am not confident at all. Infact, I feel really insecure! I think that's because I'm 3st heavier and 2 dress sizes bigger than I was 3 years ago (I've had 2 babies in that time).

My youngest is almost 10 months now and I don't plan on having any more kids so I'm now focused on getting back to my pregnancy weight and look forward to feeling like myself again. All I wear now is leggings and longline tops which are comfortable but I look and feel terrible in all clothes.

Aww ladies don’t be so hard on yourselves. I’m sure you are your worst critics!
We think we are never truly happy with ourselves. I hated they way I looked on my wedding photos in my 20’s! Looking at them now I realise that I was fine! Why on earth was I fretting over them! This will continue all your life! You will always look back and realise that you didn’t look as off as you thought you did.
‘I lost myself’ after having DS and didn’t know how to dress and felt frumpy! It will come back.
You need to start things off by loving yourself, treating yourself to a bath, shaving your legs, covering yourself in body lotion, pampering yourself. I bet you are all busy sorting out your family’s lives that you are forgetting yourself. It will lead to wanting to look after yourself both physically and the way you dress/hold yourself.

Thank you.
I don't really have a shape im just frumpy all down.
Large bust, that sort of sits on belly lol, big thighs and calfs.

I'm going to town this week and I'm going to look for less baggy tops but not skin tight

I’m exactly the same, also after 2 babies.

I feel completely uncomfortable in my own skin. Every day I’m preoccupied by my weight and I hate it. Motivation is an issue

I’m a 14-16 and generally think I look ok. I do quite a bit of exercise and am generally happy with my shape (bit more of a belly post Christmas mind you!). I think no often trying to hide under baggy clothes makes you look bigger than you are. I think it’s a case of finding what suits your shape and sticking to it.

I’m a size 16 and yes, feel confident with what I wear, though sometimes it’s hard to find decent looking clothes in larger sizes, so that can be a challenge. I grew up in a house with a mother who was constantly fretting about her weight, yo-yo dieting, restricting food but binging on leftovers from other people’s plates. Nope, not for me. I’m active, happy, have run 2 half marathons at a size 16.

I’m a 14/16 at the moment after putting on a few kgs and don’t feel great about it really, but I do feel pretty good at 12/14. I’m 5’5”. I have spent a lot of time trying different things and have identified a few go-to outfit combos that work with my body shape and show off my nicest features (boobs, legs) and sort of hide my least favourite bit (gut!).

To be honest I think it is all in my head. I get plenty of random (unwanted) male attention so I must not look as hideous as I sometimes feel. I also know many men for whom a size 14/16 is the ideal body size. I think a lot of size pressure comes from other women and our mothers.

Maybe it would help to do a consultation with a stylist to help you find something you feel good in? I follow Emily Innes on Instagram, she does online consults I think. I haven’t had one but she seems so lovely.

As a size 14-16 and hourglass shape I look pretty good when I choose clothes that are the right shape for me. Lots of fit and flare dresses showing off waist, a line dresses and skirts with nice tie tops or jumpers cut off at waist again to accentuate the 'best' curves.

Although I bought some cords for winter I avoid jeans - they show up all lumps and bumps and make me feel fat. I am aiming to lose some weight this year.

I'm 5' 8", a 14/16. I tend to wear jeans with a belt (either flares or mom jeans) with a satin type top tucked in (French tuck) and then a cardi of some variety over the top. Ankle boots in winter, Tom's shoes in summer. Or I wear good black leggings with a sweater dress over the top, nothing too baggy though.

These tops are amazing and I have them in lots of colours, they are flattering and look smart, wash well and don't need ironing, satin front and jersey back so dont get sweaty...

www.zalando.co.uk/vila-viellette-basic-t-shirt-navy-blazer-v1021e1f6-k12.html?wmc=CRM44_TMS_EN.ONL_MIX_NMT_TM009_009_221205.&cd084=img_item&cd085=c63f77f9-3d7e-48b6-a6bb-e8bb913ca4ca&wt_cd=7ee19c9353d073dcacdccb3ceac8b859&tm_hem=37e1af260de78da114be6202267934ba

Size 14 here, my shape is some kind of wobbly rectangle :(

I don’t have much in the way of a waist and it’s where my weight goes. My hips are quite square because I hold random pockets of fat and I have a long torso which makes my bum quite low and flat.

All in all a bit of a disaster and I don’t find there are many styles which flatter my shape.

I live in comfies at home / work and then if I have to do something a bit smarter it’s wide leg trousers with a fitted jumper or slim jeans (not skinny, they don’t work with my square hips these days) and a boxy tee half tucked in.

I used to have quite a good style, was never cutting edge fashion but my own style. Since having kids and holding onto the 1.5 stone I’ve never been able to properly lose (plus middle aged spread) I have no sense of self or my own style anymore. I look at other women my size and think they look great, I’m inspired by lots of fashion and follow influencers etc, but I don’t seem to be able to translate it into me actually picking out clothes and feeling good in them.

If I’m honest I probably feel ridiculous, like I’m trying to polish a turd. Living in sweats seems more appropriate, like that’s all I warrant 🤷‍♀️