If your child’s father didn’t meet your child until sometime after birth, how old was your child when it happened?

[gretalPie]

Dc turns 1 tomorrow. Everyone said my ex would ‘see sense’ and want to be in DC’s life. He’s got a good job, nice home, no other kids etc. He has everything available to him in terms of money and time to be there for dc.

I have recently met someone and have no feelings for ex. But he is my child’s father and I really struggle with him not being in any contact at all with dc. Should I give up hope? Ex isn’t young, it’s not that he’s too distracted travelling etc. It’s hard to understand.

I'd write to him, are you in contact at all? Do you get any maintenance etc...

@OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside he pays maintenance through cms. Tried making contact a few weeks after birth. No response, he’d read it too.

3 months. And then vanished again when my child was 4. Haven't heard from him now for 14 years.

@idiotmagnet with no explanation?

Never. She doesn't need him in her life and deserves better.

@gretalPie
Do you know his family? Could you speak to them?

It is a shame but sometimes people aren't interested my friend has a similar situation but he pays every month and said to text of ever she needs money but he doesn't want to see the kids

Bizarre but it happens

I hope you find a happy resolution

4 and a half months and been in her life since (she's now 11).

Sorry op, it baffles me how some men can just not care at all 🤷‍♀️ I hope you and your dc have a wonderful life regardless

My eldest is 14. Her 'dad' hasn't seen her since she was 6 weeks old. He chose to stop all contact when I told him I would not let him walk in and out of her life as he pleased. I have had no contact with him since, his parents tried for a few years and I took her to see them for a few years in order to keep connections and 'do the right thing' but once she had her own mind, I left the decision up to her. I have never badmouthed him to her and to this day I have told her that we 'weren't on the right place' but his lack of input has made her mind up for her. At least I have the comfort of knowing I didn't influence her thoughts in anyway what so ever. I have always left tue door open for him to be a part of her life, it was his decision to ignore her.