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Man weeing in street!

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GrossBehaviour · 06/01/2023 15:22

Hello dear Mumsnetters!
So this happened yesterday. Not altogether sure what if anything can be done about it but me and my daughter are so shocked about this 24 hours later! She took the dog for a walk yesterday down a quiet residential street at about 4pm. Still light. As she walked down the road she saw a man walking towards her. He saw her, turned towards a hedge and started relieving himself! Just like that! A very well dressed presentable looking guy she said. She didn't see anything as she quickly looked away when she realised what was happening but said she heard the gushing sound like it was a horse weeing she said! She walked hurried past and came back to the house feeling completely weirded out. I don't think it's a police matter is it? She has a description but it could quite literally be anyone?

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picklemewalnuts · 07/01/2023 10:39

Warspite · 07/01/2023 10:24

I saw it happen in a busy hospital car park. Chap stood quietly as if waiting for someone, checked all around him, didn’t see me sitting in my car and then pissed against a Mercedes!

Zipped up & mooched back to his family waiting two rows away in their family car. Hospital was a very short walk away. They have a public toilet right inside front doors.

I was fascinated as at first all I could see was the hot steaming gush (last winter, very cold) against the Merc until I realised what he was up to. I was appalled but hey ho what can you do!?

Ive not thought about it since until this post! Lazy bar-steward should have gone into the hospital like any decent person would.

See that man was doing typical lazy bloke behaviour, didn't want to get caught.

The guy in th OP checked to see someone was watching.

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GrossBehaviour · 07/01/2023 13:54

@Scalottia good grief you're really milking our 'shocked response' aren't you!
Whether it was a police matter or not was a rhetorical question. I quite obviously would not be calling 999 as I am not insane. I was wondering more about whether the more local number or neighbourhood patrol kind of thing would be worth contacting.
Your response to my daughter and I still being shocked more than 24 hrs later is pathetic. I'm not responding to your very smug question about what she may or may not have experienced in her past. You think I'd start expanding on that to you up there on your high horse? What I will say is this is a very quiet street in a very quiet neighbourhood. I'm not talking about France or London. Just a quiet little road where nothing happens. The man was walking along, saw my daughter and directly turned into a hedge and started pissing. I don't think he was caught short as others have suggested. I think he did it in front of her for a bit of a thrill and I might be in the minority here but I think that's pretty gross. Yes she is 19 but there are plenty of kids round here and I don't think that's an appropriate thing for him to do when a much younger person might have seen him.

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Marigold41 · 07/01/2023 14:35

GrossBehaviour · 07/01/2023 13:54

@Scalottia good grief you're really milking our 'shocked response' aren't you!
Whether it was a police matter or not was a rhetorical question. I quite obviously would not be calling 999 as I am not insane. I was wondering more about whether the more local number or neighbourhood patrol kind of thing would be worth contacting.
Your response to my daughter and I still being shocked more than 24 hrs later is pathetic. I'm not responding to your very smug question about what she may or may not have experienced in her past. You think I'd start expanding on that to you up there on your high horse? What I will say is this is a very quiet street in a very quiet neighbourhood. I'm not talking about France or London. Just a quiet little road where nothing happens. The man was walking along, saw my daughter and directly turned into a hedge and started pissing. I don't think he was caught short as others have suggested. I think he did it in front of her for a bit of a thrill and I might be in the minority here but I think that's pretty gross. Yes she is 19 but there are plenty of kids round here and I don't think that's an appropriate thing for him to do when a much younger person might have seen him.

I agree. It's the fact that he saw your DD and then did it. Maybe it's a way for blokes who want to expose themselves to have an excuse? After all, I was only doing a wee...

I would record it with 101 online.

Reugny · 07/01/2023 14:38

SmugglersHaunt · 06/01/2023 15:25

I've seen a man doing a poo on a street corner in Hackney. He stopped, dropped his trousers, did the business and even wiped himself with a tissue from his pocket before walking off.

I thought I'd imagined it, so crossed the street to check - and sure enough, there it was on the pavement like a Walnut Whip.

There was me thinking Hackney was more up market then Croydon.

I've seen all sorts there.

strawberriesarenot · 07/01/2023 15:33

GrossBehaviour · 07/01/2023 13:54

@Scalottia good grief you're really milking our 'shocked response' aren't you!
Whether it was a police matter or not was a rhetorical question. I quite obviously would not be calling 999 as I am not insane. I was wondering more about whether the more local number or neighbourhood patrol kind of thing would be worth contacting.
Your response to my daughter and I still being shocked more than 24 hrs later is pathetic. I'm not responding to your very smug question about what she may or may not have experienced in her past. You think I'd start expanding on that to you up there on your high horse? What I will say is this is a very quiet street in a very quiet neighbourhood. I'm not talking about France or London. Just a quiet little road where nothing happens. The man was walking along, saw my daughter and directly turned into a hedge and started pissing. I don't think he was caught short as others have suggested. I think he did it in front of her for a bit of a thrill and I might be in the minority here but I think that's pretty gross. Yes she is 19 but there are plenty of kids round here and I don't think that's an appropriate thing for him to do when a much younger person might have seen him.

You are right. It's not 'the custom' (and it's not that accepted in France either, nor has been in the 30 years that I've been backwards and forwards). I'd report it if I were you. You might find, as my boss did when he reported something I'd witnessed) that the police were already keeping a log of incidents. The age of your daughter is irrelevant. It seems he did it in response to finding himself in a quiet place with a female. Could be a kid next time.

viques · 07/01/2023 15:37

GrossBehaviour · 06/01/2023 15:22

Hello dear Mumsnetters!
So this happened yesterday. Not altogether sure what if anything can be done about it but me and my daughter are so shocked about this 24 hours later! She took the dog for a walk yesterday down a quiet residential street at about 4pm. Still light. As she walked down the road she saw a man walking towards her. He saw her, turned towards a hedge and started relieving himself! Just like that! A very well dressed presentable looking guy she said. She didn't see anything as she quickly looked away when she realised what was happening but said she heard the gushing sound like it was a horse weeing she said! She walked hurried past and came back to the house feeling completely weirded out. I don't think it's a police matter is it? She has a description but it could quite literally be anyone?

I find it hard to believe that anyone in the UK has attained adulthood and not seen a man pissing in the street before.

my advice is to shout “ Oi, you dirty bastard, take it home with you” very loudly at them, it sometimes makes them jump and then they pee all over their shoes .

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 07/01/2023 15:37

@SmugglersHaunt wins the thread - if not the whole internet for the day Grin

maddy68 · 07/01/2023 15:44

Jesus he has a wee. Get a grip

Idontmeanto · 07/01/2023 15:51

My husband has been known to do this, not in close proximity to young ladies, but because of disinhibition due to brain injury. His specialists and social worker took it very seriously as inappropriate behaviour as should the police! It’s indecent exposure and possibly a form of sexual harassment if it was done to intimidate your daughter.

Mischance · 07/01/2023 15:56

I am not sure it is indecent exposure if he did not wave it about, but just had a pee into a hedge or whatever.

As someone with a troublesome bladder I have a lot of sympathy with anyone who can't bottle it at will. He may just have been caught short.

Best forgotten I think.

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GrossBehaviour · 07/01/2023 16:00

I find it hard to believe that anyone in the UK has attained adulthood and not seen a man pissing in the street before..
@viques where did I say I hadn't seen it before? As already stated I've seen it here and abroad but not in these particular circumstances.
@maddy68 so it's perfectly fine for anyone that feels like it to take a piss wherever and whenever they want?

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amiold · 07/01/2023 16:03

😂 it was in a hedge not up boots window.

Yeah it's a bit minging but ... meh.

She's 19 I'm sure she's seen one before 😂

SaintLoy · 07/01/2023 16:05

I once saw a woman wee in the street in Bristol. She came running out of a pub, sat on the kerb, legs akimbo, and let fly. It was like Niagara. She said to me, who must have looked curious, 'There was such a queue, I thought I'd die!' It was late at night in the club/pub area in the city centre.

SaintLoy · 07/01/2023 16:06

maddy68 · 07/01/2023 15:44

Jesus he has a wee. Get a grip

Or maybe don't get a grip?

Rainbowbritestar · 07/01/2023 16:12

My brother was once arrested and fined for peeing in the street (I’m going back to 1998)
hed been on a night out,was plastered and was dying for a pee and instead of going back to the pub to use their loo,he went up a dark alleyway to pee in a drain
mid pee,he heard a noise and turned,Willy in hand,only to see a policeman had followed him and as he turned round he managed to splash wee on the policeman’s boot
a night in the cells and £180 fine
hes never done it again

Nixynic · 07/01/2023 16:19

I think that if he didn’t expose himself to your daughter then it’s gross and inappropriate but not illegal. When I lived in London I was sat in my living room one day and a lady pulled down her trousers and did a poo into a drain outside our house 😲

SlouchingTowardsBethlehemAgain · 07/01/2023 16:19

Anyone can be caught short and need to wee in unlikely places, but for a man to do it just when a young woman happens to be passing is him being a dirty pervert.

maddy68 · 07/01/2023 16:29

GrossBehaviour · 07/01/2023 16:00

I find it hard to believe that anyone in the UK has attained adulthood and not seen a man pissing in the street before..
@viques where did I say I hadn't seen it before? As already stated I've seen it here and abroad but not in these particular circumstances.
@maddy68 so it's perfectly fine for anyone that feels like it to take a piss wherever and whenever they want?

You don't know his circumstances. He could have a medical condition. He's not flashing at anyone he's having a wee ! Who hadn't been taken short ? Write to your council and ask why there aren't more public toilets !

CocoLux · 07/01/2023 16:32

I mean it's not great, but he was facing a hedge not flapping his cock at her. And I don't get all the 'but what if a chiiiiiiild saw him?!?!' hysteria. 50% of kids have penises, it's not a big deal.

Scalottia · 07/01/2023 16:36

CocoLux · 07/01/2023 16:32

I mean it's not great, but he was facing a hedge not flapping his cock at her. And I don't get all the 'but what if a chiiiiiiild saw him?!?!' hysteria. 50% of kids have penises, it's not a big deal.

Yep - it isn't great behaviour, but it's just a penis.

Also to the OP, not sure why me being surprised at your daughter being shocked means that I am up on my high horse, but whatever. She's 19, not 9.

LetsDoThis2023 · 07/01/2023 17:09

Well it is illegal.

picklemewalnuts · 07/01/2023 17:19

No it's absolutely fine for men to wait until a woman is approaching before weeing into the hedge. Im just surprised they ever go when no one's round. What a waste that would be of an opportunity.

notsosoftanymore · 07/01/2023 17:37

As you get older and there are fewer and fewer public toilets, you sometimes have no choice. My DH sometimes simply can't wait, I've twice pee'd in the bushes on the common and once behind an open car door with him keeping watch.
It's hard to know about the specific incident recounted here. A bit odd that he didn't wait for the 19 year old to pass but he didn't flash at her, she didn't see his penis (and so what, with so much porn on offer these days etc...). I think the police have enough to do.

mac1974 · 07/01/2023 18:15

@SmugglersHaunt that's hilarious. Love that you crossed the street just to check

freckles20 · 08/01/2023 01:01

I think you're getting a hard time here @GrossBehaviour.

IMO this really depends on whether the bloke deliberately did a wee because he saw your daughter, as opposed to genuinely being caught short and not registering your daughter's presence.

The former would mean he deliberately exposed himself. Some people snugger at this type of thing but there is a large body of research which shows a strong link between men exposing themselves before moving onto more serious sexual assaults. As such the police should take indecent exposure very seriously, and everyone should report any concerns of this type.

A quick google shows this link and sadly we now know that Sarah Everard's murderer had exposed himself more than once just days before he kidnapped her. I realise this is an extreme example but I really think that as women we are doing each other a disservice if we snigger about this stuff and suggest someone is being oversensitive if they are upset by it.

Yes he was having a wee, but this also gives him a chance to have his genitals on show and is indecent exposure.

I say this as someone who works outside in remote places and so I have a relaxed attitude to having a 'wild wee'. But this is always done in a spot where I cannot be seen.