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Tips for a difficult move from countryside to city

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BMHlatte · 04/01/2023 22:16

Hello, I wondered if anyone had any tips for moving with children?

I have rented for 8 years and LL is selling this year, I have not managed to save enough for a deposit. My Grandmother cannot move back into her Edinburgh flat due to illness so is having to access sheltered housing and pay rent. My Grandmother's preference is that we move into the flat, which is in a good area with good school catchment, and pay her rent.

My children will hate me. I am on my own with 2 sons, 8&12 and a dog, I WFH majority of the time full time. I have just been seconded to a more senior role. We currently live in a semi-detatched 3 bedroom in a rural location outside the city. The schools are very very close (1 in secondary and 1 in Primary).

If eldest was to stay at his current school, he would have to get two buses and leave home at 7am. he has never been on a bus by himself and rarely with me, but I know he would prefer to stay at his school.

Youngest is expected to receive ASD diagnosis, I have worked very closely with his school, but he has been expelled and a parent raised a police report against him in 2022. He is doing much better just now though and is excited about school. I would prefer to move him and allow him to build relationships close by so they can meet outside school. it will take around 25 minutes there and back from the flat walking.

I am frozen with fear about the move, the expense and time and upheaval for us. I know we are very lucky to have a home, but we are used to country living and being able to open the door to let the dog out when I'm grabbing a drink!

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PacificallyRequested · 04/01/2023 22:19

You don't have to move into your grandmother's flat if it's not going to work for you as a family. Granny could sell her home to pay the sheltered housing rent. And you could rent somewhere else that suits you better, maybe close to where you are now.

BMHlatte · 04/01/2023 22:29

Thanks for your reply. My LL has done some questionable things over the years (including leaving us without central heating during the winter), but to her credit has never increased the rent. I have been looking for other places for some time, but we are priced out. I think my LL could rent this house for double what she has. Because my youngest has some additional needs, they absolutely cannot share a room, It would be hell on earth for us.

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