What time does your 15 yo go to bed on a school night?

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Asking because mine says all her friends go to bed at half eleven, and I think that's too late when she has to be up for school.

Would be interested to know what others think.

We all head up about 9:30 but she's always up til 11 and sometimes until 4am. She's in bed, snuggled down, no phone etc but her anxiety takes over. She's home schooled now but still used to get up for a 7:30am bus and now I tend to wake her at 8:30 even if she has no online lessons that early.

10:30ish bed then allowed on phone for a bit - tends to get later as the week goes by. Only takes them 10 mins to walk to school so they’re not up silly early.

I can tell you when hes supposed to go to bed ( and by that i mean lights out) and its 10.30...

I left her to it at that age as she didn't like being tired so could sort her own timings out- she normally went to sleep between 10 and 11:30.

At 15 eldest was a 10 ish lights off as he would be really horrible if tired.
2 years on he tends to turn everything off around 11 maybe 12 if no college or work.
There was once during Christmas break he had too many late nights and was really nasty to me and others he acted like a 10 year old, even squared up to me when i suggested he was tired, . So i removed all devices and lights off 9pm like a 10 yrs old would have.
Im always relaxed but that day was honestly the day from hell as despite being 17 he couldn't seem to self regulate and realise he was tired and grumpy

I leave mine to it - she’s a typical night owl teenager and it’s futile to try and make her go earlier.

I don’t have to wake her for school and she’s doing it well in her studies so I’m happy. I just wish she’d stop her late night snack runs which mean we get up to crumbs and open cupboards 🙄

16yo DD goes to bed about 9:30-10ish, she’s pretty good and is generally up and ready in the mornings.
14yo DS1 is terrible, I make him turn off devices at 11pm on a school night and he is a nightmare to get up in the mornings. He’s definitely a night owl like me, I tried to get him to bed earlier he moans and messes about.
DS2 is 12 and he goes up at 9:30 and is generally asleep by 10.

9pm, and probably asleep for 9:10. That said, he’s an early riser, so wakes at around 6/6:30 every day (including weekends and holidays).

Sorry I never said thank you for these replies. Really interesting to see what everyone does!

I say 10.30 on school nights and midnight or a bit later at weekends. Still not really sure what's right, but if I leave her to it she stays up super late on her computer and I don't think that's good.

I don't police bedtime for my 16 year old or my 12 year old.

Once they both started high school they had to set their alarm for 6am, the rule is they do not sleep through that alarm and if they do and I have to wake them it goes back to me setting a bedtime for them.
Of course they sometimes stay up stupidly late on a school night, but they are the ones suffering the consequence, all homework is still completed etc.
Most nights I would say my 16 year old is asleep by 11/11.30.
I wouldn't feel right telling a year 11 what time they had to be in bed.

10/10.30 here but we all go to bed at the same time. DC are woken at 7 and it’s a struggle, particularly with DS. He loves his sleep.

I remember watching X Files with my dad at that age and then running upstairs at 10:30 to get in bed before my mum got home from work 😂

I didn't have a bedtime at that age.

My parents had a similar rule to PP - I had to catch the bus at 8am and as long as I was up and at the bus stop on time, they didn't care what time I went to bed.

If they'd needed to wake me up, then it would have been back to having a bedtime.

I stopped dictating bedtimes around the age of 14 when I started going to bed earlier than them. DD is 18 and DS is 16. They are both normally asleep by midnight and up at 7.30 on a school day.

DD is 15. Electronics have to be down at 9pm, light out at 10pm. She is a bad sleeper so a proper break without electronics is required and she normally reads a bit.

That’s the same as our ds, he tends towards insomnia, so we have to be firm about screens on a school night. He’s allowed to read in bed, phone strictly downstairs.

Around 10pm. In bed, no devices.

Ds' internet goes off at 9pm on Sunday - Wednesday and 9:30pm Thursday - Saturday and he's normally in bed within 30 minutes of that.
Occasionally he reads later, but as long as he gets up the next day when he needs to then I don't worry too much.