How to stop resenting ex

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My ex hasn’t seen our children for a long time, he recently got back in contact wanting to see them.

Fine he came to the house to see them, since we split up 6 years ago he has never once had them over night never even done a school run, nothing, he deliberately created a situation so he was unable to have the children at his house over night meaning I never ever get a night to myself. Im struggling never having a break, since getting back in contact he has made it clear he is still unable to have them overnight (obviously it wouldn’t Have been straight away but built up but no not possible) so I do everything and he may see them for a few hours every couple of weeks. I don’t know why a father wouldn’t want to have their children overnight? I know some people will think I’m lucky and don’t want their kids going away overnight but I’m exhausted and at breaking point. He asked me the other day what I did for new years knowing damn well I did the same thing I do every night, sat in on the sofa alone, it’s almost like he wants to hear that. I’m unable to meet anyone or start again / have a new partner, I have no social life. How can I stop being resentful towards the situation?

I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way and understandably so. He either needs to back off or step up. It's not fair on your child. Can't just have them a few hours now and again. Its not right. Hope you're okay x

Are there any of your child’s friends mums in a similar situation that you could agree perhaps every Friday evening to take it in turns each week to have each other’s child for the evening or perhaps a sleep over so that you both could have a free evening once a fortnight?

No that’s been suggested to me before and it isn’t an option as I have 4 children not 1. So not a possibility unfortunately, I want my ex to see the children for my children’s sake they do deserve to see their father it just annoys me he would deliberately not want to have them over night I don’t get it.