Do you always tell your DH when a child does something wrong?

[Chocchops72]

I caught DS (age 15) out in a lie tonight.

i didn’t mention it to DH at the time. He’s tired, stressed with work and we do have different approaches to this kind of thing. My first instinct is to want to talk calmly to DS and find out what’s going on before talking with DH.

I’m not sure this is the right thing to have done.

Do you always tell your DH in this situation? I’m trying to think how I’d feel if it was the other way round. I think I’d just be glad that DH was sorting it out, but I might be kidding myself. DH is much more black and white about lying. I’m more inclined to try to understand what’s going on first, then make a judgment.

You and your DH are separate entities, each with a different relationship with your son. It is not unreasonable to have a private conversation with your son that your husband is not a part of. You can resolve a situation without your husband being involved. (be aware that the same is true if the conversation is ever between your DH and DS).

15 is a difficult age. A calm conversation, at least initially might be for the best.

I suppose it depends if you need to be a united front when addressing whatever it is. No need to tell everything though.

Yes.