Don't want to see any of my friends

[hangoverfish]

I've posted this elsewhere but haven't had any replies so posting here too. Hope it's ok.

Im a SATHM, I've had a busy couple of months and feeling absolutely drained. I really have no energy to see any of my friends these days. We take in turns to invite for a cuppa or lunch and it's my turn for the very few friends I have, but I just can't be bothered to have them around. Is this normal?

Things are quiet at the moment but as soon as schools resume I bet they'll start texting me again (as we normally do) to ask if I want to meet up. I don't.

How do people reply to these texts? How do you spend your time when feeling low/anxious, would be great to hear some tips on feeling more positive about yourself too.

Just be honest with them.

They might be more supportive than you think.

Yes, tell them you are not well enough and not up to it right now

look after yourself and be kind to yourself

Just be honest. Sorry not feeling it right now, maybe in the Spring

Normal in my world OP. I mean not desiring to meet up with folks.
Low and feeling anxious are also “normal” feelings but please don’t spiral downwards like I did when I was a SAHM with young kids.

Tell your friends, or one that you feel the most affinity with. Nothing to lose!

I still feel like you but I try and find a balance of not going to everything but dipping my toe in sometimes. I have good friends these days who don’t take it personally and my family understand that I need solo time sometimes. I’m 51 now but always felt like this!

I think it's ok to need a breather especially after the busyness of Christmas. I'm feeling a bit peopled out at the moment and plan to keep January as low key as possible.

Try to get some early nights to help recharge your energy and grab some quiet time when you can.

Just let your friends know that you'll catch up with them soon if they message you.

I have a friend who worried me and the others in our little group when she started making up daft excuses not to join us for our monthly walks/coffees. Took her a year to admit to us that she had anxiety brought on by various things.

Please just tell your friends the truth and that you will join them when you feel able to.

Hi @hangoverfish i totally get you, the thought of a get together with friends feels like so much effort for me 😒but tbh when i push pass the feeling of dread and meet up with them i do have a nice time and feel good.

Thank you so much for the warm messages. First time in months I felt teary.

I've never really admitted this to anyone, except for my best friend who now lives abroad and DH, but it does seem to come and go. I guess I've always pretended I'm fine which hasn't helped.

I'll see what I can do. For me right now, being honest takes courage. Thank you.

Yes you say you are unwell and not up to meeting. "I've had a lot going on and it's knocked me, I'm sure I'll bounce back soon but just feeling so awful atm I'm not good company"
Works with my good friends. And they will check in by text.

Sometimes we need to see friends and sometimes we don't. I know I am unpredictable so can't gauge if seeing friends will make me feel good or bad.

Good friends will be there when you feel like it. We have ups and downs and I have more the others I'm fragile and when I say I feel ill no one ever asks why. They either don't one or assume it's a winter bug.

Hope you feel better soon 💕

Just be honest. Don't make silly false excuses.