Trying to find out if he's on dating sites...

[Imturningintoadetective]

Hi all,

I won't give too much background but found out partner has cheated in the past. I have a strong feeling he's on dating sites. How do I find out? I don't want to go through his phone.

So,.I've signed up to tinder (fake name, profile pic of a tree and no info) obvs I'm not active on there and dont swipe right for anyone. I've searched until there are no men left and not found him.

It's been 6 years since I online dated.
So my question, what sites are popular these days?
Bumble I can't try as I have to verify its me with a photo and I can't put up my picture.

Which sites are popular? Any hook up sites I should know of?
Thank you.

I mean if you're doing this is the relationship even worth it?

What makes you think he's using his real name?

I mean you aren't, are you?

But the relationship is over when it gets to this stage, cut your losses OP and keep your sanity and dignity.

Honestly regardless of what you do or don't find its over isn't it?

Either you trust eachother or you dont. Clearly you don't. So what's the point of looking. Its already over. The fact you are even thinking about it tells you all you need to know really.

Just go with your gut instincts. It's usually correct.

So firstly I completely understand that if I need to do this and there is no trust then we may as well split up.

Basically we have a child and been together 7 years. I love him and ideally he isn't messing around. The issue is that the cheating I have evidence of was at the start of our relationship (6 months in) but we were properly together and supposed to be exclusive. I have suspicion but need proof.

I know he won't be on a dating site with a full photo, his real name etc.
However I've searched through all the men in a 40 mile radius on tinder and confident he's not there. Most men have photos. The ones that dont show their faces either have body shots that are not him or other things that make it obvious it's not him.

Everything is about appearances with him (not physical), he has a job many women would be attracted to, so I would be surprised if he lied about that. His name is common, so he may be honest (think Dave). If he's going to attract women to make them swipe for him, he has to have something on there and nothing so far shows its him. However we met on tinder all those years ago, so I need to search elsewhere. I thought maybe more seedy sites, I don't know of any so will have to Google but was hoping someone here may be able to tell me what is popular these days.