My grandson is 5. Lives with his mum. Basically he hits,kicks, bites , screams shouts. Throws things. He does things like he will be in his bed . And he will scream and scream for his tablet and he's left lt at the bottom of his bed. When they try and go out of the house that also causes a melt down which also lead to the same as I mentioned above. He gets over whelmed when they are out for to long and finds it hard to cope. He found Xmas hard to cope with as well. He said he hated everything. He wakes at least 3/4 times a night and he has 2 nappys at night.
Hes often at my house sometimes to come and play. And sometimes to sleep over. When he's here on his own (without) mum he's fantastic he does still let rip with melt downs. But they are much shorter, we talk about how he feels. It does not normally make any sense. But I just let him be heard. And acknowledge him. Other tomes obhave to be a bit stern. When he sleeps over he has no nappy on. Does not get up in the night and sleeps right through. And its the 1st proper night sleep dd has had.
My daughter stayed over Xmas for 2 nights. Grandson done his same routine no nappys sleep through the night. There was a handful of melt downs . But we made sure he has his own quite plave he could go to which he did. I expected it to be hard because of it being Xmas.
My daughter often contacts me ranting about how he. As explained in my first paragraph. So she says she don't know what to do. I give her some advice. She follows it . It worked. She then rings me the next day with exactly the same problem. And has mlr even tried the sane advice I gave her the day before. When she says she's doing something that day . And I know it will trigger grandson. I remind her that it will happen and she needs to prepare mentally for it and think how she will manage. She does not she just rants at me and does nothing.
I have tried showing her videos from the Internet. I have sent her screen shots and links .
She often snaps at him which often leads to him exploding and b4 you know it there's a madness between them. I have tried to advice her to try the tired down approach first but she never listens. There have been times I have told her to leave my house because of how she talks .
I love them both to bits I want them to have a loving relationship with each other as mum and son
Sorry if I have not explained well. I can expand if needed .