How to go about my first lesbian experience

[bambi009]

Newly single and realised I think I'm bisexual. I've always been sexually attracted to women but didn't really understand it until recently, but never romantically. I've realised I'm a heteromantic bisexual.

My sex life with my ex was a bit shit but I think it's because I was a lot more turned on by women, particularly recently. And my type is a very feminine woman, I am also very feminine.

I'd like to explore this a bit, but I haven't a clue where to start. Not sure I want to do dating websites and put myself out there publicly just yet. Not looking for a relationship or ongoing thing - just a one time encounter really.

Has anyone done this and had success? I'm half terrified but half really excited to give this a go!

I promise you they haven't in RL!

Hi I would like a chat

Hi how are you

I don't have children I consider myself straight but very Bi Curious and would like to experience being with another woman. I found this post when I googled for the millionth time how to go about it. Has any any tip on what apps? I was going to give tinder a try.

Have a look at Skirt Club and Killing Kittens @Luciandspots. It's one way to meet bi and bicurious women in a similar position. Women there are generally looking for casual encounters but not emotional/ romantic relationships. They often won't mind if you're not 'out' and are keeping this a secret. Some swingers clubs also have women only events for 'play' opportunities.

If you're venturing into dating apps be very clear about what you are offering and also what you want. You'll probably be inundated with requests from women who are in a m/f couple looking for a unicorn and overlooked by out lesbian and bi-romantic bisexual women who, if they are on traditional dating apps, probably want a bit more than you seem to offer at the moment.

Feeld might be an app worth looking at.

The bi bars and groups in Brighton can be very intimidating as there's a cohort of transwomen who dominate so tread carefully. That said they can be great as a starting point. Well done for taking the time to assess how you feel it's an exciting time and there's lots of us out there.

I am in the same boat. Newly single after 11 years with a man and now I want to explore but no idea how to go about it. I have looked at Skirt Club but not sure I’m their ‘clientele’.

Any advice welcome :)

I'm also finding myself in this situation if anyone would like to chat? ☺️

Have fun, but do make sure you're upfront about what you're wanting and what you can offer - because the women who do want romantic connections as well as sexual ones get really bored of (& sometimes hurt by) time being wasted by people who only want sexual experiences but aren't upfront about it.

Speaking as a bisexual bi-romantic who has both been on the receiving end of this, and has been put down by lesbian women who are wary of bisexuals for this reason.

I'd honestly go to a bar. Dating apps are generally for dating. Bars for casual hookups.

HER definitely has women on it. There are some trans women and transmen but they usually state that on their profile. Same with on Tinder.

Relationships between women can be very intense. Your first lesbian heartbreak is the worst. That's my only word of caution. We fall hard and fast.

Highly recommend Ruby slippers at the Townhouse, Merseyside for those wanting a one off or casual type encounter.

It's very friendly and a lot of bi and bi-curious women attend, being a club there's less expectation of looking for a relationship but equally no expectation to play either.

This thread is over a year old. Why revive it now? I suspect the OP is probably happily curled up with another woman by now.

There is a secret bisexual interested Facebook group but I chicken out after 24 hours they make you upload a selfie to confirm your genuine!!

Nope no hopes or fulfilment yet….

I’m still searching for the answer! But isn’t it interesting that so many of us feel the same yet none of us are brave enough in real life!

Hey, Im new to this and have come across this post. I was wondering if you had any luck? I am also interested but don't have a clue where to start? I don't feel comfortable to go on apps as I haven't told anyone how I'm feeling.

I've just come across this thread too and feel the same way. I also don't feel comfortable with apps so not really sure how to pursue it.