What do you do to make your marriage happy ?

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Need to think about what I add to the marriage

Do you do any nice things etc ?

try to be cheerful etc ?

Please, thank you, consideration, respect, honesty, taking an interest in things he cares about, making an effort with his children, making cups of coffee, excellent shagging.

I think it's the little things really, a cup of tea in bed, the odd treat bought while out like chocolate/cake, (he knows me well) and just being nice to each other

I don't nag , well at least I don't think so 🤔, I make sure we spend time together ,make Saturdays feel like a date night. Plan little surprises .

See it is the little things like he will make himself a cup of tea but not offer me one, ok I might be upstairs or whatever still but could still make one

Doing little jobs for each other. Sharing childcare, school runs. Making each other a drink. Good sex and making sure I'm happy in that department. Honesty.

I think realising what you and your partners love languages are really really helps. If you aren't sure what love language means I would highly recommend googling it as it's very interesting and makes you realise that everyone shows their love in their own language and therefore they show you love in their way, but you don't realise it as you don't show love in the same way and it can sometimes cause a dispute. No idea if that makes sense? but for example I think my love language is giving gifts, so I may get upset my husband goes to Tesco and didn't think to get me a little gift like a bar or chocolate while there or something which could lead to resentment that he doesn't think of me enough etc?! however why would he do that as I've realised (after 5 years) that his love language is acts of service (I.e. cooking, cleaning up, making me a cup of tea etc). I sometimes have to remind myself of this as I don't see cooking and cleaning as showing love but he has said many a time he does it because he loves me and wants to make my life as stress free as possible xx

OP I’ve seen your other threads today and it seems clear that you and your DH are in a rut.
The first thing for you to decide is if you actually want to be with him. And that’s entirely separate to the question of whether it will be easy to find someone else. If you want to leave then you have to be prepared to be single. Also remember that you can end a relationship for any reason, not being happy is a reason in itself.
If you do want to make it work then you need to talk to him. We can’t tell you whether you bring enough to your marriage (or whether he does), you need to communicate with each other. Tell him what you want, and listen to what he wants. Decide if you’re both willing to do those things to make it work.

Thanks for the replies, I’ll think over all you’ve said.

For us, it's being honest with one another and not letting little things build up into bigger things. If something is bothering one of us, no matter how small then we discuss it and move on. No stewing on stuff as it builds up into resentment.

Agree with little things, I made DH a cup of tea unprompted yesterday, he picked up some flowers for me from Morrisons. Just small things that make life together nice.

Also having a fair split of childcare and household chores. I do more school runs and cooking as I'm part time and DH is full time. But he does more washing up and laundry. We both take turns to get up with DDs at the weekend to give one of us a lie in. It doesn't have to be split exactly equally but needs to feel fair.