Not looking for advice but just feel a mug (except I have good boundaries now)
dm and I went away a month ago and she asked did I owe her anything so I said no and paid- petrol the hotel etc. She hinted she wanted a hotel voucher for Christmas for her and df
so I got that though she doesn’t get me anything as two years ago I got cheap bubble bath that she said ‘will probably make me itch’ and I didn’t have it on display the next time she visited. So anyway yesterday she told the kids we are all going to a hotel before Easter (she didn’t ask me)
red mist appeared before my eyes (she has form) and I said No a day trip is all I can do as I have a lot on. I’m in my mid 40s and have never had help since age 17 even as a teen she would borrow my sat job money. Anyway she put it’s out she’s so generous to neighbours and all that
feeling hurt but proud I said no