How much do your children/ teens do round the house

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Not necessarily what types of jobs, but how much/ often
(Would like to know if I'm being too soft, too harsh or just right with what I ask)

Do they have set jobs on certain days or just help out as and when you ask?

They're 14, 11 and 7

For us, 14 washes dishes about 4x a week
Cleans out rabbit one a fortnight
Sorts out washing maybe once a week,

Cleans out cat litter tray once a week

then the odd bit of tidying as and when butmuch, more just asking to move their things etc. Supposed to stay on top of bedroom but doesn't really

11 washes dishes about 3x a week
Cleans rabbit out once a fortnight
Sorts washing out about once a fortnight
Again odd jobs

7 has no set jobs but will get them to tidy their toys up each day, then give odd jobs like dusting, mopping (just a lightweight spray mop) and tidying shoes away and wiping table

At those ages, each of mine had to cook the evening meal once a week.
Whoever wasn't on cooking - one had to empty the dishwasher and the other had to get the table ready / get everyone a drink.

All were responsible for their own rooms - and yes, they all went through the 'my room is a pit' stage.

They've always had to put their own washing away (and obviously get it to the washing basket in the first place).
Everyone expected to clear their own place / put things in the dishwasher as they finish with them.

Not really much above that.

Not as much as he should but with a little complaining he will always do what is asked

He is a pretty good teenager so we just keep to this

12yo does mostly sod all. Cleans rabbits out once a week helped by her DF ( ie he does it)
She will wipe table down and clear table if I nag her.

Our 3yr old "helps" with unloading the dishwasher (cutlery only) and with hanging out and taking down the laundry, though she obviously slows the process down a lot, and has to tidy after herself before bed each day, as well as putting her dirty clothes in the wash basket and putting her clean ones away. She also helps with easy stuff like wiping surfaces and dusting, but that's not chores really, just helping/playing while we do it.

Shit sorry I just realized you asked about older kids. My brain is fried, ignore me and my irrelevant comment about my toddler.

No it's fine, it's good to get an idea of age appropriate jobs.

Sounds like you have a great little helper

They have to bring crockery out of their rooms daily (well every other day anyway), tidy their rooms weekly before the cleaner comes, put their laundry in baskets in their rooms and bring it down to be washed (if they don’t and have no clean clothes that’s their problem - they are teens), put dishes into the dishwasher and clean up any mess they make.

They have a rota of laying the table, clearing the table, and wiping down the table and kitchen surfaces after dinner.

It’s not a lot to ask so we are strict about it

DD16
Puts her washing away
Puts shopping away
Empties dishwasher & 'shark' hoovers when asked
Tidies her room before the cleaner comes once a week (keeps her room pretty tidy all the time
Cooks 1-2 times per week
Cleans cat litter tray once a week
Cleans glass on wood burner
Puts my superking duvet cover on
Feeds cats when asked

DD14
Puts her washing away (or adds it to the floordrobe)
Puts shopping away
Empties dishwasher and 'shark' hoovers when asked
Rarely tidies her room but cleaner doesn't go in if a mess
Cooks 1-2 times per week (usually more than her sister)
Helps with recycling (under duress)
Feeds dog when asked
Brings me a cup of tea when she gets home from school if I'm wfh
Plays cards and watches TV with me 😊

DS(13) cooks almost every night for us but he does leave a right mess! He tidies his room when his girlfriend is coming round so at least it’s much tidier now than it used to be.

DC 17 & 14 each walk the dog once a week and DS 14 cooks tea once a week. This was only because I collect DD later one day, and he kept moaning about how late tea was, so now he cooks while I taxi.

They have to tidy their room before the cleaner comes but things like the dishwasher and hoovering feels unfair as it's mostly for my job (childminder). DS will sometimes empty the bin if it's full when he uses it, and he always brings the wheelie bins back in when he gets home but has never been asked to.

DS18 - nothing, and creates more mess and work in every room he goes in.
DS17 - almost nothing. Might do dishes every couple of weeks if pressed, with lots of complaining.

I've tried everything. I'm an exhausted husk of the person I used to be.

Thanks all, sounds like we have an OK balance then really, though I'm going to add cooking a meal each once a week for the older ones as they can cook but it's ad hoc and id like to make sure they stay on top of it

That sounds hard.

I have a 14 and 15 year old (who have sn and mh problems).

Take their full washing basket to the washing machine once a week.
Take dirty plates etc to kitchen.
If they make a mess I expect them to clear it up eg spill a drink, leave bathroom in a tip.
Put their clean laundry away.
They are supposed to clean and tidy their room but mostly it looks like a tip. As long as the rest of my flat looks ok, I ignore their room as much as possible.
I might ask them to do a small job as and when.

DS19- Cleans his own bedroom whenever he feels like it but changes bedding minimum weekly.
DS18- Cleans his bedroom throughly( even lifts his whole bed and hoovers underneath) weekly. Cleans the conservatory weekly. Will pop down to local shop to get me a top up shop mid week.
Dd17- Puts shopping away. Tidy, dust and hoover whole House weekly. Cooks once or twice a week. Hang clothes to dry.
Dd14- Cleans the bathroom at once least weekly or more if needed. Clear and cleans Countertops and floor daily. Cleans the fridge.Takes rubbish out. Cooks once a week. Changes her Bed Covers. Loads Washing Machine.
Dd12- Washup. Hangs up clothes once I've ironed and will put them in everyone's room. Takes out clothes out of Washing Machine.
The jobs I do is to sort out the washing piles, cook and iron. The deep cleaning is also my job ( oven, clearing out wardrobes, inside Kitchen cabinets, sorting the Garden and driveway)