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How did you organise visiting baby at home?

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mopsyhasapassport · 29/12/2022 21:15

Hopefully if all goes well we'll both be back home very quickly, but in some ways I feel like the hospital has much lower visiting expectations!

On DH's side we will only be having his parents. My mum is the problem as she will invite half of the county

We have stocked up with biscuits and cakes and will point them to the kettle.

Did you organise a timetable in advance?

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mopsyhasapassport · 29/12/2022 23:11

God willing it all goes well, Plan A is definitely get home, settle in, and then let PILs and my parents know they can come. Then my friends.

I'm a fussy eater so not keen on people bringing food but will be asking people to phone first.

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mopsyhasapassport · 29/12/2022 23:13

blueflagflyhigh · 29/12/2022 23:10

I don't understand this why would your mum be inviting people round 🤷🏻‍♀️

The only people we had come to visit was parents and siblings in the first week (most of them had visited when in hospital anyway and then close friends in the weeks after. No randoms or mums friends or aunts/uncles, cousins etc. just say NO!

She has form- when we moved in she was desperate for me to invite a multitude of aunties and cousins 'to see the house'. I don't mind (and DH is good too) about saying no to her but it's stress I don't want.

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OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside · 29/12/2022 23:40

mopsyhasapassport · 29/12/2022 21:22

I like the idea of a set of people at a set time every day. I really want to enjoy it but I also want time with DH and the baby.

I'd say wait at least a week before anyone other than grandparents come that would be my advice

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CakeIsNotAvailable · 29/12/2022 23:51

It's so hard to predict how you'll feel. After I had my eldest I felt amazing - I had a Caesarean, but was up and about very quickly, and we spent DH's paternity leave driving around the country visiting friends and relatives! I would have been happy to accommodate guests at home too, but I enjoyed getting out and about, and it stopped me getting bored. I was not massively precious about having lots of time with just the three of us.

RitaSueandBobtwo · 30/12/2022 00:03

Try not to stress and see how you and baby feel after the birth and when you get home. You may feel great and be eager to show off your baby and see visitors for relatively short visits.

I had fairly easy labours with both of mine. Most visitors will phone or text to ask when they can visit and will fit in with you (the health visitors or Community midwives or whatever they are called if they still do home visits mine are teens now will land whenever they fancy. But some visitors will still land on spec regardless what you want or think and then its up to you. But you need to tell your mum not to invite half the country.

Most visitors won’t stay long but some may try and out stay their welcome which can be wearying.

jellybe · 30/12/2022 09:26

First day home from hospital we told one half of the family the were welcome between 10 and 12 the other half between 2 and 4. Then we made it very clear that we wouldn't be having visitors for a while whilst we got settled as a family. This was with DC number three - in-laws ignored the times we'd given them on the first day but did respect the no visitors for a while rule so it worked out okay in the whole.

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