Noisy disrespectful neighbours

[upinastar]

This is more of a rant than looking for any kind of advice.

I've spent the past few weeks recovering from a major operation to remove cancer while having to listen to my neighbours crash things around, bang every cupboard and door, stamp up and down the stairs and shout to each other rather than talk until all hours. They have a baby and a toddler in the house and I really feel for them as it must be so chaotic in that house, although sadly it's probably the norm for them, and they will be the next generation in thinking such disrespect for neighbours is normal.

What I don't get is how people actually think it's acceptable. I mean you know if you are slamming doors and shouting, they aren't arguing when they do this, it's just how they are. A lot of people really just do not seem to care about the impact they have on others anymore.

They have been informed in a nice way and just shrugged their shoulders and carried on, nothing changed. I'm too sore and tired to be keeping logs etc .. I'm wiped out with the chemo as it is. I can just about look after my children with the way I feel right now. My children don't have their father around as he died when they were really young so there is no one else here to support us with this.

As I said at the beginning. This is just a rant. I suppose I was just looking for a bit of support that things won't always be this way as it's so difficult right now not being able to escape from this and seeing my children upset by everything when I've already told the neighbours who just don't care.

Please contact the Housing Association to complain about the noise as it is definitely unreasonable. Unfortunately the more fuss you make the more likely you will get a satisfactory resolution, be it a house move for them or you.

I had a noisy neighbour years ago and I had to complain several times before the council took action. Eventually I was moved to a much nicer flat in a better area, but you have to be persistent and make a bit of a nuisance of yourself to your landlord.

Sending hugs 💐

No worries, with the white noise machine you can also do lower frequencies (e.g. brown noise) to help cover up deeper sounds like banging. I think it's probably worth remembering that, because the neighbours are so noisy themselves and don't care, they probably wouldn't even notice noise from your side. I did the same thing where I'd try to be quiet and listen out for noise, but it made it worse.

Good advice from the above posters, I'd personally do my best to move by complaining through the Housing Association. Obviously the last thing you need at the moment is the stress of moving, but hopefully it would end the daily ongoing stress and give you some peace back. Fair play to you though, brilliant how well you are managing and doing the best for your children despite the situation.

Sorry I don't have any advice but we have a very noisy ignorant neighbour. Bangs the front door at 6am when taking his dog for a walk, shouts really loudly to the dog, not nasty just the dogs name etc. plays his piano constantly, including at 7am which wakes my daughter (she's an adult but not the point). He's been practicing the same piece of music for 4 years, I know every note of every bar! We've spoken to him about it and he apologises but just seems to forget after a few weeks. The worst is when his son and wife visit (different story) there is always a very aggressive argument, I rang the police and ambulance a few weeks ago as I seriously thought the son had killed him! It puts me off inviting my elderly mother round as she'd be upset at the fighting and it usually happens on a Sunday. We own and they rent, I'd move but I keep hoping they'll move on as there's only him there in a 3 bed terrace which is very expensive. Sorry I've no advice but you have my full sympathy, especially with everything else you have to cope with 💐