I want to leave my husband

[Leaving2022]

Basically that. I want to leave. There is nothing wrong with him, it’s just like living with my best friend. I love him but I don’t fancy him anymore.

We don’t have sex and this is a big issue for me. We have an age gap relationship which doesn’t help that.

I just feel like I’m wasting my life. I’m not happy and I know I could be much happier if I make some tough choices.

How do I do this? I know I will break his heart. We have no children together and live in a rented house. Where do I even start.

Be honest, is it that you want to leave, divorce, totally move on or is it the lack of sex?
If it’s the latter, have you told him how you feel?

Tell him gently it's not for you any more. No discussion, then go. Don't waste time being unhappy

How old are you? Do you want children? And how would you be financially?

If you're not having sex he might be grateful if you left.

I’ve already had my children they are late teens. I’m 38.

He is the one who doesn’t want sex, it’s definitely not me. We have had the discussion many times over the last few years and he promises the Earth but never delivers. I’ve got to the point where I don’t even try now as I’m sick of rejection.

Financially I’ll be ok. I have some savings and a decent paid job.

It’s more the ‘how’ do I start this conversation. I’m a bloody wimp!

I'd just tell him that you don't want just a friendship, you need a proper relationship and you feel it's time to leave.
Of course it will be a shock but leaving is never going to be easy. But it sounds like its something you have to do.

Watching with interest as I’m in the same boat

How did you get on? You are not a wimp! I really hope it worked out for you! I am in a similar situation but have kids! Best wishes to you

Did you find the words to tell him?
@Jemjemima I’m trying to find the words to have to conversation with my husband. Have kids too. Every night I think, right, I’m going to say it tonight but then I think no, I’ll just wait til another day and I go to bed.
@Leaving2022 my husband hasn’t wanted to have sex for our whole 15 year marriage! We only had sex while trying to conceive our children. And it’s all him, I’ve been rejected by him so much that I don’t want it from him any more. I don’t know why the f**k I’m still here actually! Now that’s being a wimp!