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I always get stupidly drunk with this person

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RedPost · 28/12/2022 15:00

And it's starting to trouble me.

Generally speaking, I enjoy a drink, but know when to stop. I don't show myself up and am always more than capable. Rarely drink enough to make myself bad next day and really only drink at all once or twice a month (admittedly more this last couple of weeks).

Anyway I've only been out with this person four times, spread over the last year. I know him as part of a sports club and we start off in a group, which whittles down to two or three as people drift off.

So, 1st time went to a sports event followed by lunch and a music festival. Lots of people left after lunch, but 3 of us stayed until the pub closed. Steady drinking all day, definitely tipsy, but not too bad, I'd successfully paced myself, as had the others. No issues.

Next time, it was another sports event, in the morning, quite a few stayed for lunch, then left just the two of us. I got home about 8pm, no idea what we talked about for so long. Lots of blanks in the afternoon.

The sports club drinks after our last session of the year. Again we were there to the end, with one other. I was only there a couple of hours, in my mind I didn't drink very much but I had the mother of all hangovers next day.

Then yesterday, we went out with some clubmates for lunch. He and I stayed. At 5pm, I just had to up and leave. I could barely see and was sick twice on the way home. That hasn't happened in about 30 years! Again, I don't think I had more than about 3.5 pints.

So something's going on. I don't change my drinking habits with him, but I am getting much more drunk. When we've been out late he's seen me home without any issue, but I don't think I'll be staying with him again.

Is it just that I do drink more than I think on these occasions or something else?

OP posts:
Skinnermarink · 28/12/2022 15:02

What are you saying? That you think he’s spiking you??

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 28/12/2022 15:12

Can you try avoiding alcohol altogether when out with him - you can say you are doing 'Dry January' or similar?

DifferentYearSameShit · 28/12/2022 16:10

Your gut is telling you not stay with him and guts are rarely wrong. Can you go alcohol free even tonic without a spirit what ever you drink or non alcoholic lager and only buy your own. Don't drink if he buys you and see what happens. No one need know you're not drinking if you don't want to tell them.

wheresmyshoe · 28/12/2022 17:08

You might be drinking more and at a faster pace with him than you're used to. I wouldn't assume spiked. Next time go home when others do.

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