I just want someone to say everything will be okay TW stillbirth mentioned

[Aussierose2]

I'm not sure if I'm being childish here but I don't have a single person in my life that tries to make me feel better when things go wrong.
Throughout my childhood I was always stepping on eggshells trying to make my mother feel happy so she wouldn't ' go off on one ' I lost my son in 2020 at 37 weeks and it felt like I had to be the strong one for my husband and everyone else. Today we found out that we are going to have to sell our house unexpectedly and I'm very worried about it. Im 10 weeks postpartum and my husband has just said nothing reassuring and taken himself off to bed. My parents are not supportive and always seem to end up making me feel worse.

I just want a hug and to be told it will all work out and to feel like someone else cares. Thanks if you read this.

It sounds like you’ve been through a lot. I’m sorry that you don’t have anyone that has been a help through that.

I can offer a virtual hug and the assurance that people do care. I care. I hope that it all works out for you. If there are things that you’d like to talk through then please do. (((Hugs)))

Bless your heart- you are definitely not being childish! It sounds like you've had to always put on a brave face and be strong so others are comfortable around you and when you need support, you aren't getting it.
I really do feel for you because I had to play a similar role growing up in my family- people pleasing, walking on eggshells etc. Its very tirimg and when you are the one who appears strong, people just expect you to always be stoic and dont seem to know what to say when you crumble.
You've been through such awful and hard times and its ok to feel really shit and hopeless. Right now, its totally valid to feel that way. You said that you are ten weeks post-partum and your hormones must still be all over the place.
Please be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. X

I know how you feel! I'm all the time feeling that I am the only adult around and can't count on anyone. It's shit.

Sending you a hug. Do you have any person (even a distant friend) who can understand you? If not, places like MN can help a lot.

Aw
Adulting is so hard isnt it!?
I hate making big decisions like houses, cars, jobs etc
Sorry for your loss, things will be ok and I'm sure those people do care perhaps they don't know how to show it. ((Hugs))

Sorry for your loss. Think of it as a fresh start, you will never forget your little one but you won't have so many things that trigger the memories like coming home afterwards etc. You will be so busy planning your move that it will give you other thoughts to fill your mind. When you find & move to your new home you can make new memories & make a special place for your little ones memory. Grief isn't something that goes away but your life grows around it & gradually the feelings of loss are surrounded by other things like ripples on a pond. It will get better, you will still remember your little one on anniversaries but happy memories will surround that time. By the time you move you won't be 10 weeks pp buying & selling a house takes time.

You have been through an awful lot. I can't imagine getting through losing a child as you did.
I take it you have just given birth again - congratulations - and ten weeks postpartum is pretty rough. Be kind to yourself, you have been beyond hardcore to get this far.