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I want to be left alone.

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Vanishbanish · 28/12/2022 00:20

This is very complicated but I will try my best.

I had a friend from a long time ago. We both had kids. Her child is 13 mine 15.
They used to do gaming on line together with other kids mix of both their ages. Friend that my son is to blame for her son swearing because he only does it when he's been gaming with my son. Even though I have heard him constantly swearing even when it does not make sense. Also she said that her son was doing certain lessons on school. My son apparently did not believe her son
And asked to see his time table. I have no idea of how this was done if it was in a nasty way. Just messing about/banta. For me it seemed like teen silliness. But she saw it as my son being a bully and obsessive and fucking weird.

One day she called me and said she did not want to cause upset but she no longer wanted My son near hers not communication etc. And she told me she was close to phoning social services. Because he had sent her son nude photos of himself. It actually turned out my son was showing her son his hair and did not have a top on. I have seen the picture and know this it true as she made a comment about my sons nipples. But no mention of other private parts.

The above happend 9ish months ago. I'm guessing as I have lost track.

Anyway my son has been blocked on everything so can't contact her son. But my son is not blocked from her number. Apparently sometimes my son will ring her and ask if him and her son can start talking again she tells him no . The he will be really rude and nasty to her. Say some reality bad things. Which I could well believe as he's done it to me alot and it is pretty awful. Then he's sorry. Then he's sad. Then he angry.

My son has had alot of mental health issues . Which have let to him being aggressive towards Me. If he was older abd not my so I would call it domestic violence. I don't like saying that. But its just easier to get a picture of the situation. He's accused me and others of doing /saying things they have not. He thinks people are out to get him. We have been begging for help and getting no where.

So more recently my son tried to end his life. He took lots of tablets . And was in hospital for 2 nights. This triggered the help he needed but I don't know how long for.

Not often but every now and then. My friend will call me . It always leads onto what a bad person my son is and and tells me all what I have written above all over again. I tell her to block him and she refuses to . Surely that does not make sense.

I have had other stuff going on as well . With my daughter. She's been though DV. Her son was almost removed. Her ex went to prison he's due out soon. We were all classed as life in danger and my daughter had an emergency move and so did me and my children. Things are also set in place for safety for when he's out. My kids schools have even been contacted about her ex for my kids safety and my 12 year old has been given a paper with his photo with instructions for her to hand into shop keepers if she was to ever see him.

I just feel like I/we have had so much shit going on. I just want to be left alone . Even if I block that will cause issues as well.

Sorry it is long. I had not intended on writing about my daughters situation.

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Vanishbanish · 28/12/2022 09:50

Was late when I posted , so giving it a bump

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CPL593H · 28/12/2022 10:12

You are right when you say you have a lot going on. I don't understand why she doesn't just block your son either, but giving her any headspace isn't helpful. I would (if you can find a way) remove her number from your son's phone and block her everywhere after sending her a clear message that he is unwell and any further contact between them is inappropriate. If you can't remove the number, I would still send her that message. I'm not sure what issues you think this will cause, but can't see they would be any worse than the situation that is upsetting you now.

I hope that you can get your son all the help he needs and your family are in a better and more settled situation soon.

Vanishbanish · 28/12/2022 10:45

CPL593H · 28/12/2022 10:12

You are right when you say you have a lot going on. I don't understand why she doesn't just block your son either, but giving her any headspace isn't helpful. I would (if you can find a way) remove her number from your son's phone and block her everywhere after sending her a clear message that he is unwell and any further contact between them is inappropriate. If you can't remove the number, I would still send her that message. I'm not sure what issues you think this will cause, but can't see they would be any worse than the situation that is upsetting you now.

I hope that you can get your son all the help he needs and your family are in a better and more settled situation soon.

Thank you for replying . I won't be able to get his phone. I don't get why she won't block him. With my side of blocking I did get a new number so I never gave it .but then she contacted me asking for it via social media. And going on about we will never fall out over this. We will always be friends etc. So then I feel bad for that.

It's mainly her not blocking him that I don't understand. She knows what the situation is. what's the point in not blocking . Just to contact me and tell me what he's been saying. And tell me how off his head he is etc. When I say to block him she says no incase he ever truly needs her one day.

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Vanishbanish · 28/12/2022 12:09

I think I probably need to switch of a bit . Just concentrate on my kids

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Vanishbanish · 28/12/2022 18:05

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