Me and DH have been married for over 20 years. I have known his family since I was young so I guess we are all pretty comfortable with each other. The problem is that this Christmas they have grossed me out with their familiarity. We hosted DBIL and DSIL just for the day before Xmas (with their partners and children).
There was endless burping, farting, snot snorting and gross story telling. They have always been like this but as I get older I am starting to struggle with it. I get that we have known each other a longtime and they are comfortable in the each other’s company but I want them to act in a non gross way like they usually would in other peoples houses! They make me feel sick and at the moment I really don’t want to host them again. They constantly burp and don’t seem to realise that it’s gross.
My lovely mother In law is no longer with us and I miss her as they wouldn’t burp and fart in front of her! She was a very formal lady who really valued manner and politeness. Unfortunately her children have gone the opposite. I guess it’s a rebellion!
Just to add my DH has slobbish tendencies but since we had children has got better. He no longer burps at the table and wipes his face on his sleeve. I didn’t want him teaching the children this.
I thought I was a relaxed person but their company now makes me feel queasy. Really don’t want to host them for a festive family get together next year!