Ungrateful

[Xmasungrateful]

I know I'm in the wrong and I know I'm being ungrateful.

Been with my partner for 7 years. But we do not live together. He is very generous when it comes to birthday /Christmas.

He often buys me a phone. There was a couple of times he done it each year . I told him not to as my phone does what I need it to. This year I said I was happy with the phone I have. I don't see the point of an upgrade. Anyway he has bought me a phone for Xmas. It cost 1000 pounds. He was so pleased with himself.

The thing is 1000 is alot of money on one item. Me and the kids were homeless in temporary accommodation for several years . We have now moved into our council home. Although we have beds sofas, tvs wifi . I feel like a thousand pounds could have bought us quite a bit for the house. Like Shelving , sideboard I want. Maybe nice curtains nice rug . I just feel like if would have helped make my house feel a home . But its been spent on something I did not need.

Yes I know I'm a total cow .

There was nothing he could do
to to be honest. I really only said about the temporary accommodation/homeless to give an understanding of me kind of starting all over again.

Can he comfortably afford all the expensive phones he keeps buying you? Then surely he could have paid for the deposit for a private rental and a contribution towards rent?

The phone is on credit so he's not actually paid for it in a chunk of money.

With private renting its around 2000 a month. I should get help with the rent via housing benefit. But its near impossible to find a landlord that would take us on. We were not in a position to move to a cheaper area. Due to special needs /vulnerability mental health issues. We are in our home now that's secure and is a life time tenancy so we will not have to go through that ever again. It's ok to reflect a little but it's been done now and we are in a much better position than before.

I think his heart is in the right place. I just don't think he thinks things through.

You're not ungrateful, you know the value of money. As you say, what's the point of a new phone you don't need? I suggest selling the phones you no longer need on ebay or similar, keep the latest one. That could earn you enough for new furnishings for your house.