Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with grieving partner? My MIL was sick for many years, wouldn’t see us, lied about her condition and really put a strain on our marriage for many years.
This is our fifth Christmas since she passed and I really feel frustrated as my husband basically retreated and left me to do everything. I have had to put up with a lot from his family without going into too much detail but I feel like every Christmas becomes about his family and I’m just expected to suck it up. I can’t remember the last Christmas we had which was nice and we have three children who are growing up fast.
We have been couples therapy and he went grief counselling and felt he was getting back on track but yet again Christmas has been derailed. His dad now has a new partner and is a little insensitive at times but to be fair to him it’s also been 5 years but my husband isn’t happy about it and every time he sees him he goes into a depression.
I’m just fed up of feeling alone in the marriage and feel like he ruins any special memories for our kids. We’ve not had a good Christmas in such a long time and my in laws are quite nasty so have no support from them whatsoever. I have tried to support him through his grief but this situation has been going on for over 10 years now and I’m sick of it being about his feelings and family all the time when mine don’t get a look in.
at what point do you draw a line under things and walk away? He has a brother who he financially supports and takes advantage and I feel exhausted from it all.