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My MH is starting to spiral as so overwhelmed so ive just made the 1st step to help

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SortinMyMH · 26/12/2022 23:21

Background always had MH issues but the last 5 years have been relatively controlled. Odd wobbles of anxiety but most of the time ok.
No longer on mediation blah blah

However the last week or so ive felt so overwhelmed, the lead to xmas etc.

One of my triggers is clutter /not being able to control it.

Yesterday we had an amazing day, in Fact xmas eve we sae family and swapped gifts, then yesterday a lovely day but omg the mess. And yes I KNOW that part of xmas. And i didnt show it to the dcs, we played games unboxed toys etc.
Today another lovely family day out.

Got home the dcs are unwell and generally overwhelmed by the last 3 days
Every room every corner every cupboard has stuff in that isnt normally, the lights blew on the tree,
Dh put the dcs to bed and for some reason i was so overwhelmed by the mess, clutter etc i felt like i was going to have a panic attack! I haven't had one in probably 2 years?

Dh asked what we could do to sort it. And i said get the tree away get the clutter away.. I can't cope!
So after that checking i was sure he got in the attic and got the decorations boxes down.

I feel awful as of course its only boxing day but i felt i was drowning in everything around me.
Dh is back to work tomorrow, i have both the youngest dcs poorly. Dsc have gone back to their dm

Ive listed what needs to be done this week that i can do around the dcs.

I already feel a weight has lifted. But im telling myself the dcs have had an amazing week in fact, each day for the last 9 days they've seen family or friends. Seen santa, been to zoo had lovely stuff to play with. And now they have space to enjoy their new toys.

I never take tree down this early normally.

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SortinMyMH · 27/12/2022 08:28

Have woken up and the kids are fine without the decorations up. They're so excited as i set up some of the larger toys and sets. So they're happy playing, the excitement was like Christmas day again being able to play stuff properly

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ihatethecold · 27/12/2022 08:30

Well done op for looking after yourself.
im glad your dh could support you.
have a lovely day and take it easy on yourself.

Greydogs123 · 27/12/2022 08:37

I don’t have mental health issues and I’ve found the clutter difficult! We had family staying which was an extra 4 people in our small cottage, so 4 extra loads of wrapping. They’ve left now, so I can spend the day sorting the rubbish and hoovering up!
Well done for recognising your difficulties and implementing a solution. Great that your Dh supported you.

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shuttheblindsintheevening · 27/12/2022 09:18

I don't struggle with MH but I totally know what you mean about the mess. I'm currently hiding away in bed while the older kids help themselves to breakfast downstairs. I'm in fear as to what I'll find when I go down!

You've done the right thing by tackling the decs. Little things can make a big difference. For me, just sorting out the recycling - there were 4 bags of wrapping queuing up at the door as it was 'too cold' to take them out to the bins - helped hugely.

Can their toys now go into bedrooms so that they're playing with just one or two things at a time in main living spaces?

It's great that you've got a 'to do' list. Hope you get back into a normal rhythm soon!

SortinMyMH · 27/12/2022 19:03

Thank you. Have spent the day with family then sorting more. They don't have toys in room as no space but they have a playroom downstairs. Its all in their and stored and sorted.

They. Tend to bring to lounge what they want to play with especially if needs setting up like the stuff i did last night.

Washed all the beds polished through. Dh just hoovered top to bottom. And hes. Sorting the drying whilst I have a soak.
Tonight quick mop and we'll pack our washing away as tomorrow we have a family day out so be nice to come e back to nothing to do.

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overthehill7 · 29/12/2022 11:37

I am literally struggling with the same thing OP!
I get so angry when I feel overwhelmed/overstimulated and DH is so great. I feel so awful after I've been annoyed but I just can't help it.

I'm taking the tree down today. I just need some order and organisation. I don't know why I'm like this :(

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