WWYD, other peoples kids

[justasmalltownmum]

Hi
Help please, as we will be seeing same families over NY.

3 families with 5 DC between them, of similar ages between 6-8.

4 play and get along great. 1 is completely different - call them B. Will break anything they make. Takes toys they are playing with and won't give them back. Ruins their games by throwing the pieces on the floor etc.

Parent of child B, says things like you won't get dessert, but then doesn't follow through. Says you won't come again, but we already have plans for NY. Says you won't get xyz thing next week/tomorrow but we all know they will. Basically the parent doesn't follow through.

Came to head, when child B hit another one of the children on purpose. Parent of child B said "child B don't do that", and child B did it again.

Wwy have done having witnessed this? What would you do if child B starts acting up again on the next visit?

What would you have said to the child that got hit as they felt child B wasn't in any trouble for hitting them.

Tia

If you witness anything step up and tell him of . Remind the parents of "you said no desert " if need be leave ( presume your not hosting ) if you are hosting remind B of your house rules ( kind hands , kind feet , kind words.)

My DS had a friend over once caused havoc, I told him calmly that his behaviour wasn't acceptable in our house and I would take him home . He apologised , I had no more trouble out of him .

I don't think you can tell off of parent is there , I think you make a choice as to whether to invite and keep in mind that there is some unmet need behind the behaviour.. not all children find socialising easy

Age of misbehaving child? Do they have additional needs?

What account detail said. If other parents won't step up and parent, you'll have to. If you really have to include this child in your socialising, that is