Is it too early to send a gift if the baby is not born yet?

[BoredOfRain]

A friend of mine is due to have her second child early Feb. I found items on sale that would love to post her. However, is it too early to send gift / congrats message before the baby is born? I could just get it delivered to myself but don't want to pay double postage.

Won't you be seeing her once the baby has arrived?

Personally I'd not send them to her no.

I wouldn’t give any gift until the baby is safely here. Saying that, when I had my eldest we didn’t have the pram in the house till she was safely here, so I may be a bit superstitious!

Send it after. I'm not especially superstitious but have a thing with unborn babies.

Do not do this. Either get the things delivered to you or send something else to when the baby is safely here.

@PritiPatelsMaker - I had a mc a while ago so I might try and avoid seeing her for a while. I know i should just face it and go and see her as it would be a nice thing to do. but at the same time i don't want to get upset.

@Whatthediddlyfeck - it makes sense. I'm ttc at the moment and over sensitive about this so just wanted to see what other women think to make sure it's not just based on my opinion.

thank you both for sharing your thoughts! 💐

might just get it posted to myself to make the use of sale

Don't send anything until the baby is here.

Yes that's really weird tbh. Just to save few quid postage. Don't do it.

Really sorry about the MC. You seem to be torturing yourself by looking at baby things in the internet though.

I'd just buy her something nice once the baby is here

@PritiPatelsMaker thank you for kind words. I'm ok looking at baby stuff just not sure how my would reaction be seeing a newborn and having to hold him. I would rather avoid the situation.

Tank you all for your time replying to me. I will get her something when the baby is here and see if I can try and meet her beforehand.

It's not that much upsetting seeing her pregnant as much as it upsets listening to her complaining all the time while in the meantime I would do anything to be at her place 😕

I would never send a present before the baby has safely arrived, sadly.

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage but please don’t send a gift in advance of the birth. I’m due in 2wks after suffering an early miscarriage in January and this sort of thing would send me into a complete spiral of anxiety for fear that it would jinx the birth that I’m already stressing about. It was bad enough when the card accompanying a gift from work colleagues said they couldn’t wait to meet our little angel when they arrive! Rationally I know it’s just a turn of phrase, but it took a lot to overcome the panic that it could be an omen of what’s to come.

Is it too early?
yes.

Definitely not until baby safely arrived.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

But the gift is about her and not about you. So it’s too early for you to send a gift.

sorry. My previous comment wasn’t actually very nice and I’ll admit I hadn’t RTFT.