Merry Christmas everyone - why do I just want to text a man that isn’t interested?!

[Iamtired9]

I hope everyone has had a nice day, whatever you have been doing.

It’s getting to that time of the day when I just wish I had a man texting me Merry Christmas.

I’ve kind of been seeing/speaking to this guy and we last spoke earlier in the week. He said we would speak before Christmas and I’ve heard nothing from him today….I really thought I would…. why do I believe everything a man tells me 🥺

I don’t have his number (deleted it from my phone as wasn’t getting good vibes), so I can’t message him. Just wish I didn’t want him to message me, but I do.

I could message him on Instagram but it would be pretty random as we don’t follow each other.

Urgh, anyway, Merry Christmas everyone and if you are wishing someone would text you today as well, then I feel ya!

I understand the temptation but don't do it. Put that fone down. If he not that interested,his loss. Think how much worse you will feel if u contact him.and he doesn't reply. Find something to occupy u. I'm home alone. Just eaten 12 pigs in blankets with ketchup- that's my Christmas dinner🤭

@BCBird thanks. It is hard. I can’t even message him which I find the most frustrating thing maybe!! Hope you enjoyed your pigs in blankets!

You deleted his number for a reason - and this is the reason, aren’t you glad you did

It’s lucky you deleted his number and can’t do it even though you want to!!! It’s not a bad thing, otherwise if you was to message he will know he can do this a few more times and even though it’s him being a dick…you will break and message first.

m His taking the piss, don’t be a push over, you will just regret it. Been there, done that, the story never changes even though you want it to each time, but it don’t!

You could track him down on another social media app but you will perhaps come across as super keen.

Merry Christmas OP. I was meant to see my very close friend today (for whom I’ve started to develop feelings… 5 years and multiple partners after he did!). He was bringing current girlfriend along which I wasn’t too happy about but hey, I thought I’d go anyway. He’s now messaged saying they’re going to his parents and let’s meet in an hour. Christmas was celebrated yesterday here, so the visit is not that a big deal. I’ve texted back saying don’t worry and please enjoy the family dinner but I’m a bit gutted 🥹 I probably won’t be back here until summer, if I’m lucky.

@RocketIceLollie that’s what I thought… but I agree, I really don’t think that’s a good idea…

I am annoyed with myself I deleted his number even though I know it’s for the best and as other people have said, I did it for a reason. Just feeling a bit lonely and would like someone to message me/ want me.

Self respect, OP. Don't text a man who hasn't kept his word to contact you. It doesn't satisfy your desire to have someone message you/contact you because you've chased someone not interested.

Best thing you did was delete his number. I'd forget about him and move on, not get caught up in some soul destroying one sided situationship.

@eyope that’s very true. Getting a text from someone who isn’t interested really isn’t fulfilling my desire to be wanted. I know in 2023 I’ve got to work on my self-esteem.

I don’t know why I thought he would message me today. I hate how I naive I am sometimes and how I don’t realise that some men will just tell you what you want to hear.

It's as bad the other way.
A guy who painfully ghosted me 3 weeks ago after dating & getting really close hit me with the 'Merry Christmas, you ok?' text earlier.

Not today, Satan.

@Iamtired9 I'm feeling the same. Trying to be really good and not text or Instagram someone I like and who I just can't work out whether he likes me or not. I'm going on a PP response...he's not messaged so I assume he isn't interested in me.

though to top it off apparently I only attract married men who will message me on Christmas day - no I won't be responding

Stay strong. The right man will come along. You deleted his number for a reason.

@GlitterSquid I am sorry, that’s no fun either.

I hope you didn’t reply to him.

No, I've stayed strong- this time.

I hope you're ok.

@GlitterSquid well done - you’re a lot stronger than I am!

I am alright - if I am honest, deep down, I am a bit disappointed that he didn’t have the decency to even wish me a Merry Christmas. Just wish I had blocked his number as I feel like I am going to be waiting around for him to message me now…but never mind. I will move on! At least I can’t text him now whilst drunk on NYE 😂