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I saved a life today and it was surreal

75 replies

Paq · 25/12/2022 16:30

Christmas morning in my town in the far south west, there were 100s of people down on the local beach, lots in swimming.

I was heading into the sea with my family group and there was a man, face down in the sea, being moved around by the surf.

He in his 80s (?) and had gone out for a swim in just trunks. He was only 1-2 metres from the shore, in thigh high water, but he had gotten so cold and disoriented he was just silently and peacefully drowning while dozens of people were absorbed in their own family groups and fun. He had lost the ability think about getting his feet under him to stand up.

I got his face out of the water and he just blinked up at me. My mum (73! and also going in for a swim) and I got him to his feet and up the beach to where his towel and clothes were. He was still really out of it but we could tell he was going to be ok.

The whole incident was bizarre. Literally no one else noticed him drowning or us rescuing him. They were so caught up in their own thing. This is how kids drown in crowded pools, isn't it?

Drowning is silent, there's no splashing about, no cries for help. Even after I hauled him up and asked if he was ok he didn't say anything. He wasn't loud panicking, it was like he'd half shut down.

It should have been a safe day today. It was a mild temperature, low tide so shallow entry, small, non-powerful surf.

A long time afterwards a couple of people nearby said they thought he was just enjoying floating in the waves. Because he wasn't panicking.

Anyway, if you are by the sea this Christmas, look around, check if everyone is ok. Happy Christmas everyone.

OP posts:
Haggisfish3 · 25/12/2022 16:32

Wow op. Well done. You’re right it is so often silent and not noticed.

Jaybird43 · 25/12/2022 16:32

Well done OP - I can’t imagine how scary that must have been for you / the poor chap! I hope he is ok and you are ok too x

ColinRobinsonsfamiliar · 25/12/2022 16:35

What’s so great about this OP is simply that you actually noticed.
In this day and age people just don’t do they? Life is busy, people are wrapped up in their own thing.
The amount of threads on MN about selfish and self centred behaviour shows that this is a huge thing.

So be pleased that you did a good thing today by simply noticing another human being.
💐

WorriedMillie · 25/12/2022 16:35

Wow, well done OP, he was so fortunate that you noticed. ❤️

lissie123 · 25/12/2022 16:36

Well done for saving him. He might need checking out by medics as there is some known as secondary drowning?

Fireandflight · 25/12/2022 16:37

Well done OP. I'm supposing you are in Australia, with so many people in the sea.

labazslovesliving · 25/12/2022 16:37

well done treat yourself to a nice glass of something

Skinnermarink · 25/12/2022 16:38

People thought he was enjoying floating in the waves…face down?!

LovelyRachel · 25/12/2022 16:38

Omg @Paq are you near Truro? I saw the Coastguard helicopter fly over towards Treliske earlier and I thought "Oh no! A Christmas Swimmer in trouble!"

😔 x

Aposterhasnoname · 25/12/2022 16:42

Well done op. I once saved a child from drowning. I was sat on the edge of an island type thing in the middle if the pool, and she was just inches from me. The pool was heaving, and she was really quiet, serene almost, but I noticed she kept going under, so I just reached across, grabbed her and dragged her onto the island. She never said a word, just coughed for a while, then I asked her if she wanted me to take her to parents. She nodded and I carried her across the pool to what was by then blatantly obviously her frantic father. The last I saw of her they were talking to the life guard then went off towards reception.

it’s really scary how completely silent it is, if I’d been with anyone and talking to them, rather than on my own people watching, I’d never have seen her.

Hellocatshome · 25/12/2022 16:43

Well done although I'm amazed you knew he was going to be ok so quickly. In his 80s face down in the sea at this time of year, he could have hypothermia, secondary drowning or a medical.event heart/stroke could have caused him to be in that position on the first place. I hope proper medical attention was sought and he didn't just go home.

dubyalass · 25/12/2022 16:45

LovelyRachel · 25/12/2022 16:38

Omg @Paq are you near Truro? I saw the Coastguard helicopter fly over towards Treliske earlier and I thought "Oh no! A Christmas Swimmer in trouble!"

😔 x

Could well be. Could also be an emergency on the Isles of Scilly - the coastguard helicopter frequently does missions out there to take people needing urgent treatment to Treliske.

dubyalass · 25/12/2022 16:46

PS well done OP!

Frith2013 · 25/12/2022 16:54

Well done, OP.

Someone drowned in a pool I was in, years ago, and "floated" past me in a very similar way. They were saved by a middle aged dad standing on the side, who jumped in fully clothed. Pulled out and started breathing immediately.

Glad you were there!

Lemonlady22 · 25/12/2022 17:01

I would have called an ambulance tbh, secondary drowning can happen hours after the original incident

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 25/12/2022 17:04

The same with choking. A few years ago it took four of us adults in a room looking at a child trying to workout what was wrong with him before one realised he was choking. It really wasn't obvious at all.

WetLettuce2 · 25/12/2022 17:05

Gosh WELL DONE OP ! The poor guy, hope he’s ok xxx

MerryChristmasToYou · 25/12/2022 17:07

Well done@Paq and @Aposterhasnoname .
Thanks for raising this and for lifesaving.

BCBird · 25/12/2022 17:07

Wow. Well done. Thanks for the advice,I would not have known that re drowning. Think you should reward yourself with a treat.

ZestFest · 25/12/2022 17:09

Crikey. Well done you for noticing and reacting calmly and with compassion. It's utterly dreadful that this poor guy could have died in the midst of families who wouldn't have known until it was too late. That's so shocking. Are you ok too?

Fufumcgoo · 25/12/2022 17:18

Secondary drowning is not a thing

WavingCatpaw · 25/12/2022 17:22

Fufumcgoo · 25/12/2022 17:18

Secondary drowning is not a thing

What makes you say that?

WavingCatpaw · 25/12/2022 17:23

Just in case we’re talking semantics - here are the details. I’m not sure that calling it a different name is a good reason for a blanket statement of it ‘not being a thing.’ www.webmd.com/children/features/secondary-drowning-dry-drowning

LearnerCook · 25/12/2022 17:30

Wow! Well done, OP!

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 25/12/2022 17:32

Fireandflight · 25/12/2022 16:37

Well done OP. I'm supposing you are in Australia, with so many people in the sea.

Year-round swimming is popular in the UK, with Christmas swim meets traditional in many seaside towns, especially in the warmer south.

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