What do you do when you feel envious of others good health

[Foxytail]

Bit of a shameful one I know 😰😰

It's not shameful. Big hugs OP its so hard. When I was struggling with physical health earlier in the year, I tried to focus on the things I could still do, and try and make sure I did everything I could to not aggravate my condition (athough its not that simple for everyone). Do you feel able to share what is going on if you feel comfortable - people might have some more specific tips.

For me, I was late 40’s before I became ill and remind myself often how lucky I am to get to this age before illness hit because they’re a lot of younger people dealing with debilitating illnesses, cancer and worse.

I try and count my blessings, not always easy I know.

I have a friend I made a few years ago, who really doesn’t understand the concept of chronic illness. This fact alone has stopped me being closer friends than I’d really like to be. She’s older than me with plenty of life experience, but in a way quite naiive as she honestly believes the reason she’s in good health is because she does yoga a few times a week. I do yoga too and she sometimes doesn’t get it, like how come you’re always ill? I don’t think she’s ever even been to A&E. She doesn’t realise that she’s just lucky. She’s not horrible or judgmental or anything, she just doesn’t get it.

Thanks knock again
I needed to hear this today 🙏🏻🙏🏻

It takes time to accept it. I became chronically ill at 16. Its robbed me of so much but I'm here, I'm living, enjoying the things I can do, living my life well, within its limits.

Thasks mums
yeah I think your right
need to give myself time to accept things

100% grieve for the life and health you thought you would have. It’s the only way to then accept it. You are allowed to scream and be upset that’s it’s shit. Once you do that I promise you will feel better mentally

My husband's health failed him at 44. It is devastating, we put on a brave face, and keep going as best we can for the kids. There are days we have a good cry though.

We are all flesh and blood, and vulnerable. Anyone of us can have our health go at any time.