Rough Christmas this year :-(

[DueyCheatemAndHow]

I'm ill, day 5 now, can't see it getting better. Our inlaws moved 500 miles away and have sent just shitty token gifts for the DC whilst DH's half sister has been given a car. It's a reminder that we will always be the poor relations. DH and I have been rocky for a while and I've looked at him this morning and realised I'm just not in love with him anymore.

I've come back to bed, I ache, and I want to sob. I've always been lucky to have lovely christmasses so this is a bit of a shock.

Anyone else?

Un mumsnetty hugs, OP.

This year, my DC are going to be having a lovely Christmas Day at their dad’s.

I will be visiting my partner’s very poorly mum in a nursing home and having Christmas dinner with him and his brothers. Not exactly the Christmas I dream of but I will make the best of it.

I hope better times are ahead for you (and me!) OP!

I am also ill - day 6. I was off work this week and was going to do all my tidying and organising but have done nothing at all 😞.

I also didn’t get a job that I interviewed for (not sure I wanted it but it still felt like a rejection) and have just found out that I failed a pretty crucial assessment and am going to have to re-sit it in March.

It has turned into Crapmas.

I hope you feel better soon OP.

Don’t think about it all now. Just blank it. You can think about how you feel in a couple of days. Being ill can make you feel very lonely and a bit depressed. Can you have a hot bath with a cup of tea? What are your symptoms?
For you

Crappy Christmas here too in some ways.
No decorations up, my grill on the cooker broke my boiler now leaks my doorbell fell off
I'm not replacing any of them as we have new ones paid for to be sorted as part of the ongoing house renovations.
Just no Christmas spirit. Bah humbug
Trying to enjoy this year as I'm dreading next year with the cost of living going up and wages not increasing by even half of the cost of living, I just can't see us being able to afford any treats next year.

Priority for now is just getting better.

You can sort anything else after.

B

Sorry to hear all that OP. I hope things improve for you soon.

We have had a really shitty couple of months. My dad nearly died in a fall, my DS with autism was a victim of a Snapchat challenge at school with a very nasty twist & we had to get police involved (school have been great), my teenage nephew took an overdose, my grandmother had a fall & that's just the headline stuff!
We had thought things might be getting better, then DH got struck by this nasty virus & all our pre-Christmas plans were cancelled & the cat got in a fight, costing us over £100 at the vet.

That stuff all seems to have resolved, thankfully, but Christmas Day is all but cancelled as sister-in-law who was hosting, is ill. Then on Boxing Day, DH, DS1 & DFIL will go to football for most of the day in his hometown, leaving me with the two younger kids (one autistic).

DH & my dad keep telling me not to be so miserable, that I'm ruining it for everyone, but somehow I just can't bring myself out of it. I finally feel beaten. I can't imagine or remember being happy.

@DueyCheatemAndHow ·

Oh Dear. such a lot of illness around and unhappiness.

Look on the good side- your inlaws are 500 miles away. Yay!

You are the poor relations so don't have to go all out Yay!

If you have fallen out with your partner/Husband and it is not just because of his parents/you feeling like crap than in the new year you can LTB and not have to deal with his family at all. Yay!

I know it is not that straightforward. Just trying to cheer you up!