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I'm cancelling christmas

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FurBabyMum02 · 24/12/2022 00:34

Well not quite it will be on a different day, I just need to vent about how monumentally shit this Christmas currently is and I'm soo hoping to actually be able to enjoy the day whenever it might be.

We have all come down with this awful lurg that's going around, husband has been off work for 2 weeks now, I sound awful but luckily feel mostly ok on that front but I'm also going through my second miscarriage. I passed it this morning luckily with pain only like a bad period, its early at 6 weeks and my second miscarriage but it's so different to my last one,I was not prepared for what I would pass. I had to do it alone, at home because my husband was in a&e with our son who hasn't eaten or drank properly for a week and is quite poorly so I'm now sat up in the children's ward with him, luckily my bleeding and pain has now massively eased so I'm able to be here with him as husband is also pretty poorly.

This all means that we probably wont be going to my parents for Christmas, we were due to travel tomorrow as they live 3.5 hours away but looks like thats not happening, who knows if we will be going or when Christmas will be at this point. We have no food in because we wernt planning to be here, not even basics really as we were using up so nothing went off.

Don't really know what I'm after in this thread I guess I just needed to write all of that down somewhere and acknowledge that this is probably the worst Christmas ever because I don't want to say that outloud. It would take the hope away that we might still manage to have a day together to watch my son enjoy himself.

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UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 24/12/2022 00:36

I’m so sorry. That is dreadful. I hope that it is all uphill from here for all of you, and that you’re at least able to rest and recover over the next couple of weeks.

AtrociousCircumstance · 24/12/2022 00:37

Just, hugs. Have a special day for Christmas when you can, don’t worry about it not being on the actual day because all bets are off for this year, and that’s just the way it is. Plan a gorgeous day when you are all up to it.

SleepingStandingUp · 24/12/2022 00:38

Oh gosh op I'm so sorry, for your loss and the poorly DC which must be such a worry, and the poorly DH which doesn't help anything else.

Yes, def cancel and reschedule. How old is DS? if you're well, what about NYE and then you'll have all the fireworks for your Christmas night

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VioletLemon · 24/12/2022 00:41

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're right to feel that way, it's totally understandable. Some moments with your child might bring some pleasure, wishing you much much better days than this. Hope you fill a cuboard with things you like and if all else fails have snacks. Take care x

FurBabyMum02 · 24/12/2022 00:50

That's a lovely thought NYE, he's only 18 months so will be soundo my midnight but it would be lovely if the rest of us manage to stay awake

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7eleven · 24/12/2022 00:54

Oh sweetheart that is sad. Chin up. At the end of the day, it’s only a day. Your little one won’t care if Christmas doesn’t happen for a few days, if at all.

If you’re well enough tomorrow, pop to a local shop for bits or order deliveroo if it’s open.

ChimbarasiKotapaxi · 24/12/2022 01:14

Sending thoughts OP I am so sorry for your loss

I wish you all recovery in the coming weeks and hope you will have a special day you can share with your son

Onnabugeisha · 24/12/2022 01:24

Postponing Christmas is the right decision. Dec 25th isn’t the only day of Christmas though…so you have choices though:

12th day of Christmas is actually Jan 6th if you want to go traditional Anglican. It is Epiphany, the actual day Jesus got his gifts from the Magi. So was the original gift giving day,

Orthodox Greek/Russian Christian Christmas is on Jan 7th (also Epiphany but calculated by lunar calendar instead of from 25th December).

Rustyheart · 24/12/2022 01:25

I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re incredible to still manage to be there for your son and your husband. You’re going through such a difficult time.
you could postpone some of your Christmas routine perhaps and do lunch etc when you are all well. You might just have to have a very quiet day watching tv and resting and cook next week.
I hope you can look after yourself. You sound very resilient but you need to take good care. I hope you feel better soon.

GAH3 · 24/12/2022 01:38

That is properly shit, I'm really sorry 💐

Our difficulties aren't nearly as traumatic as yours, but we've also changed Christmas plans at the last minute: now doing presents and a veggie meal on Christmas day and turkey etc at a friends house on boxing day. I really don't think matters, especially when DC are small.

Can you get Ocado zoom where you are? Otherwise just eat whatever you can find (that's nice!) on Christmas day, and open whatever presents you have, then save the turkey meal for later.

Hope you all feel better soon

thaegumathteth · 24/12/2022 01:41

When my kids were little we had a few crap christmasses but one in particular where ds was in hospital with pneumonia and the rest of us were really sick too. I moved Christmas Day to New Year's Day and it was actually really lovely and we really appreciated it.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Do you have a friend who can nip to the shop for a few things?

DramaAlpaca · 24/12/2022 01:46

I'm so sorry. You're having a horrible time Flowers

Lizzy1980 · 24/12/2022 02:26

I’m so sorry OP, it sounds like you and your family are having a terrible time of it at the moment. Why do these horrible events all seem to come at once??? Especially at this time of year. As someone has already said you’ve done the right thing by postponing Christmas. I think there’s so much pressure on us to have this amazing Christmas and when it doesn’t work out that way it can make you feel doubly rubbish! You have your celebration when you’re all feeling up to it. I really hope that you and your DC are feeling better soon

BigDaddio · 24/12/2022 02:49

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Last thing you probably want is to worry about christmas - recover and replan. In the meantime see if you can get by on local food shop ?

FurBabyMum02 · 24/12/2022 16:41

We've managed to get little one home and some shopping done for the next few days while the shops are shut, ready meals nothing exciting but none of us are up to much. It's just so worrying he's home as we managed to get him to drink enough in hospital that they would let us go but now he's not interested again, just wants to sleep poor mite so I'm hoping when he wakes up we can get him to guzzle some liquid or we will be back in that ward and it's the last place to get rest and recover it was awful

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lynthesearesexpeople · 24/12/2022 17:01

Oh Christ, you poor things.

Sod christmas, it’s only a day. Just concentrate on you and ds.

I’m so sorry about your MC too. I’ve had two and it’s just an awful thing to go through.

lynthesearesexpeople · 24/12/2022 17:03

Also, do you have any calpol syringes around?

When my dd was in hospital with dehydration, she thought it was funny to have water squired in her mouth with them, it got more fluid down her than from a cup, might be worth a go.

FurBabyMum02 · 24/12/2022 17:10

Calpol syringes coming out of our ears haha like most families probably. That's the only way weve been getting him to have some he pushes the cup away but seems to think the calpol thing has something different in it. But they want him to have at least 10ml every 10mins or equivalent from a cup so it's just constantly harassing him to have enough and he's just done with it

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Mindymomo · 24/12/2022 17:15

So sorry for you. Have you any ice lollies, icecream or jelly you can try.

Waitingfordecember · 24/12/2022 18:16

I’m so sorry OP, that sounds monumentally shit Flowers.

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