Total self serving rant that is totally unreasonable but fuuuck!

[ColinRobinsonsfamiliar]

Friend, really really good friend of 20 years plus.
This friend had a huge abusive rant at me the other day.
Its never happened before… to me anyway, it has happened between them and other people though.
They absolutely let rip. Totally unexpected, totally out of the blue.

Then revealed that a close family member is newly diagnosed with a serious illness.

This was the origin of the rant, anger at the world, not me personally. Get it.

I need to be a friend that’s all.

Cannot get the rant from someone I thought I knew really well. It’s the unexpected ambush and complete turn of character on someone who has been kind and a good friend for many years.

Now, it’s as if nothing happened. Back to normal.

Rant over now. Will get on with life as it’s not all about me.

I had a friend do something similar a few years back. It came out of the blue and was very hurtful. Alcohol was involved. We got over it, more or less.

No alcohol at all in this situation.
we will get over this, have done already really.

Its just too good a friendship to allow anything knock it.

Glad to hear it worked out for you verified, and thanks for allowing me my rant x

Did they apologise.
I think I’d move on if I got a proper apology. Must be hard to let go off though, especially if they said some very personal things.

No apology.

With no apology I would find it very difficult to easily move on.

Why no apology. How has it been addressed then?

even if someone had a horrible thing happen, I’d they treated me badly I would want an apology/ an acknowledgement they were wrong.

Yes, I’ve blown up before - totally my fault. I was mortified by my behaviour and wrote an apology.

If they've been a good friend for so many years and are struggling with bad news I do think I would ultimately let it slide as a one off (depending on what was said, I suppose).

I would want to talk about it though to express how sad I was that she took this out on me, as well as to say how sorry I was to hear her news.

This happened to me and we didn't get over it. The next time we met she mumbled something about being sorry 'things got weird'. It just wasn't ok with me and I didn't really trust her afterwards.

It's great that you want to let bygones be bygones but the fact that you started this thread suggests that perhaps it isn't as finished as you suggest. Why would your good friend not apologise?

When I think back over the years, I have had some fucking horrific things happen and I’ve never felt the need to let rip at anyone.

I can’t get over how vicious it was. They looked like they wanted to kill me.

And all I said was hi after not seeing them for about 3 weeks. Just hi, that was it.

I wouldn't forgive and forget. I do find it hard not to hold a grudge though vengeful cow that I am.

Normally, usually I am vengeful and bitter but this friend is just too important.