Husband not showing any care

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I have noticed when ever I am unwell. I don't see any concern or empathy from him. My daughter and I both not well. I have to carry on looking after her while I am so unwell.

He doesn't even offer any food or ask is there anything you want me to do.

What upset me most today is he made lunch for him but didn't even bother to ask out daughter of she wants to eat?

I had to make something for her after I came out of shower. She is not eating or drinking but we have to push her to do it. This always makes me think, what will happen to me and our daughter? if I ever become seriously ill where I can't do anything. Right now I am pushing myself to look after my daughter.
I don't know what to do? I have spoken to him last time I was unwell with COVID and explained to him how much it hurt me that he didn't even check on me or gave me any food etc. This time he is doing exactly same. why should I tell him to do things? If he loves me and care about me he should be asking me? I am wrong to feel this away? I don't expect him to do everything but do what necessary, like give food to the child, ask me if I need anything? That's all I want. It makes me feel what is the point having a partner if I am going to do everything myself. I rather be single then I least I won't be hurt that he doesn't care .

Does he do anything to help when you're not ill, under normal circumstances?

I’m sorry you’re unwell, however, he has done this previously and is following the same route as then. Just tell him he needs to look after your daughter and to help you.

He does shopping once a week. Dishes. Very rare cleaning or cooking. Weekend, he needs one day off to rest. Which I don't mind, but what about a day off for me? I am doing dropping off school, going to work, picking up from school, making dinner, helping with homework, small shopping in way from work. Taking child to clubs after school. Hospital appointment and etc. Probably he feels he is doing enough because he is paying for bills and rent.

Why do I need to tell him? She is his daughter too. This is what I don't understand, why I have to teach him his responsibilities? apologies, I am getting too upset, don't no why.

I have covid atm and my DH has done EVERYTHING! I've had meals, snacks cups of tea brought to me and he's just come back from his third trip to the supermarket. That's how I would behave towards him because we love each other. I'm sure you could do better, and so could your daughter.

I am very happy for you. This is how it should be, when you love someone. I pray both you take care of each other like this forever. A lots of love from me.

To get through ghe current situation I would tell him when u want hi..to do something. I would postpone the talk until u are back kn your fert. As an aside was he cared for when a child or even cared for too much? Was he ever asked to do anything? If not this could be the root of the problem. Good luck and I hope u both pick up soon.

@BCBird Thank you. He is very independent. He does his stuff him self. Problem I have is, he always put himself 1st. And I am tried of telling him what to do, and I feel as I am nagging him.

He sounds like a useless miserable lump.