Terrified of death/nothingness eternity etc after miscarriage

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I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago, and this seems to have triggered it. I'm in fear of getting old and dying, what if there is just nothing after? Also the prospect of eternity is equally terrifying to me. I know it's beyond my control and pointless worrying about it but it won't leave my mind. It's happened at various points in my life but it's really bothering me this time. Just wondering if anyone can give me any reassurance/coping mechanisms? Thanks!

I'm sorry about your miscarriage and I hope you can heal. My DF died two years ago and it resurfaced some old fears for me about this. I thought well if there is nothing which I think there is we won't know anything. You don't know anything about before you were alive so I guess it's like being asleep. It does frighten me as well though. Unmumsnetty hugs

@teaandtoastwithmarmite thanks for your reply. I feel in some ways I'm moving on quite well but it's brought up these thoughts again. Sorry to hear about your DF X

But you won't know that you have died.

How scared are you that you were nothing for billions of years?

It'll be just the same. You will be nothing just like the day before you were conceived.

Sorry for your loss. I think after any bereavement it's natural to question the natural order of things and have a bit of an existential crisis to help process everything that has happened.

If you feel you are dwelling on it too much though reach out for some counselling. The emotional, hormonal and physical toll of a miscarriage shouldnt be underestimated.

I’m so sorry about your miscarriage ☹️

I don’t believe in an afterlife but don’t fear nothingness. I didn’t exist before I was conceived and won’t exist after I die, but I’ll live on in memories for a while and my genes will crop up somewhere down the line. The atoms that make up me will go on to make up other things, living and non-living - I quite like that thought.

Sorry about your miscarriage, it can bring out these sort of thoughts.
Unless you believe in reincarnation then we know nothing of before we were born and unless you believe in life after death then there is nothing after, no reward for a good life, no punishment for evil.

All you can focus on is being the best you can be for the sake of those you love.

I don't know if this quote by Mark Twain might help but I find it quite comforting ..

I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.

Thanks all. I suppose it makes sense, if there is nothing then I won't know either way and I haven't existed for most of creation. It just fills me with panic at the moment.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage OP.

I too have those thoughts about what happens after death. The idea of being dead forever sends me into a near panic attack.

Sending love xxxxx