What made you think ‘oh wow, I thought it was just me that did that’

[EmmaLouu]

Basically this. What if any, is a realisation you’ve had recently when you’ve thought ‘oh wow, it’s not just me. Why don’t people talk about this more often’ and it’s brought you a weird sense of comfort.

I’ll start:
Firstly, that it’s sooooo common for new parents/parents in general to have intrusive thoughts
And secondly, to spend ages creating scenarios in my head while I’m lay in bed at night.

Give my cats and dog their own voice and have full blown conversations with them.

For some reason this has immediately sprung to mind how surprising I find it when someone says a phrase or word(s) that I hadn't heard other people say.

This is very TMI but when I first read that other women’s knickers were bleached in the gusset. I always thought there was something very wrong/ unclean about me because I had no idea about acidity/ PH levels in a vagina. It was a huge revelation to hear I was normal.

Wow, that hits home… I had very similar at the start of this year, your experience sounds so severe! I’m glad you’re doing well and I agree!

all these posts are so relatable!

@NotNormal78 sorry I forgot to tag you

The problem is that the U.K. doesn’t generate new wealth and instead relies on rent seeking to prop up asset prices owned by the already wealthy. It’s not about the redistribution of existing wealth, it’s about creating the environment in which new wealth can be created. (which is what the article is talking about).

The planning system is the most obvious example of this. It’s next to impossible for entrepreneurs and small businesses to build anything (e.g good luck getting planning permission to build a new factory, workshop, or garage) thanks to onerous and expensive planning requirements.

New infrastructure that would improve our productive capacity is prohibitively expensive thanks to the planning system - e.g Highways England/National Highways spent £265m just preparing its planning application for the Lower Thames crossing (which may still be rejected). These high planning costs means it’s financially prohibitive to invest in, for example, regional and municipal rail networks that would help to unlock agglomeration benefits.

There are too many vested interests that seek to make it difficult to get anything built which are at the root of our poor prosperity. These vested interests are engaged in rent seeking behaviours to boost their own wealth and/or prestige and/or political power at the expense of the rest of society.

I'm looking forward to Labour's solution to this problem, I doubt they're willing to rock the boat of heavily indebted mortgage holders either, yet they can't be seen to rubber-stamp austerity quite so eagerly as Jeremy Hunt. This is going to be an interesting one to watch.

opops, wrong thread

I was diagnosed with Autism / Aspergers in early 2022 and after reading biographies from other autistic women thought 'these people could have been me'. Their lives and experiences were so remarkably similar. I went from feeling so alone to one of many.

Stress incontinence since having DC. Particularly this time of year with the excessive coughing and sneezing.

That some people just grow extra nipples as adults. Thought it was at most a third, and something you'd be born with. Still not happy about it, but at least I know it's not just me and it's technically possible to have them removed if I can't get used to it.

I reached the age of about 40 when I realised that it wasn't just me 😀

Similar! I was about 35, I think. Terrible to have never known.

Losing myself phone around the house and then having to ring its number on the landline in order to find it.