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People talk over me. Sensitive post

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Asd22 · 21/12/2022 19:07

I'm just reflecting a bit. I'm the youngest of 8. I remember as a child and a teenager. Pretty much all of my childhood being spoken over . I could never finish a sentence people constantly projected their voice and spoke over me. I mainly remember my older brother doing it mostly . He was always using his deep voice over my smaller voice. I was actually sexually abused by him. I wounder if there's a link.

I remember went on a talking strike it went on for quite a long time well couple of months at least. I would only give 1 word answers to everything. Even at school. I totally withdrew into myself.

I kept taking like mini overdoes of paracetamol. Up to 20 tablets . Nothing ever happend. I was just sick and felt awful

Obviously I started talking again. I think it was after my parents split up . The older siblings went their own way . And in the end it was just me and my dad. I think that's when things changed for the better. He was the best dad in the world. Lots of stuff Came out that he had not known. It broke his heart.

Fast forward to today . And I'm still effected by people talking over me. My teen ager is always doing it and I hate it so much. He says because he knows what I'm going to say . he really does not. But even if he does. I told him I have a right to finish my sentence. But he does not get it. Others do it to.

It makes me feel churned up. And like I don't have a true voice. And think it will be with me all my life.

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Dotcheck · 21/12/2022 19:11

Have you had counselling? I think people interrupt a lot, but I wonder if you are sensitive to it because of your childhood?

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Asd22 · 21/12/2022 19:31

Dotcheck · 21/12/2022 19:11

Have you had counselling? I think people interrupt a lot, but I wonder if you are sensitive to it because of your childhood?

Many years ago . But I felt like I was talking to a wall. And was not really able to explore. I think counselling now is a long waiting list on the NHS. May be some charities or somthing I can look into. I do t have funds for private though.

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Asd22 · 21/12/2022 22:12

I guess it's normal. But I probably over think it .

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MissMaple82 · 21/12/2022 22:17

I was in an abusive relationship where my abuser constantly talked over me. I was never allowed my voice heard and often told to just shut my mouth. I've been out of the relationship a number of years now, but it still triggers me when people interrupt before I've finished my sentence or speak louder over my voice. I don't know what to suggest, really, but I understand how you feel.

MissMaple82 · 21/12/2022 22:20

I do think maybe there's a traumatic link to it as I'm sure not everyone talks over you, but you're particularly attuned to the ones that do because of the history behind it. Confidence building and empowerment courses maybe?

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Asd22 · 21/12/2022 22:34

MissMaple82 · 21/12/2022 22:17

I was in an abusive relationship where my abuser constantly talked over me. I was never allowed my voice heard and often told to just shut my mouth. I've been out of the relationship a number of years now, but it still triggers me when people interrupt before I've finished my sentence or speak louder over my voice. I don't know what to suggest, really, but I understand how you feel.

I'm sorry for what you have been through I'm glad you were able to get out of it. I hope your OK now. I think you are right in what your saying

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