Just posting here as can't talk to dh as it involves his parents and don't want to shit stir but have to share this wtf
Dh parents divorced over 20 years. Amicable enough to have Sunday lunches and some occasions together
When FIL mother alive Xmas day included her so sometimes overlapped
We live overseas so don't have any of the burden or politics which I appreciate
FIL drives MIL and SIL nuts by being generally useless and historically absent but now his mother has died
Earlier in the year SIL and MIL said they wouldn't have him for Xmas and I really didn't see how they could exclude him now his mother is gone and he has no partner and they're all local
Mil and SIL very close.
Mil moaning that he's coming Xmas day and can't seem to see that SIL really can't tell him he's not invited . I was a bit agog they even thought they could not invite him (then he invited himself anyway)
Think mil being pretty selfish tbh - I mean I get not wanting to spend Xmas with my ex husband but he has no one else literally in the world so why make SIL feel bad for also having him
Realize I say this from a lofty place of not having to have any of them at all this year hooray