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Social skills of a 7 yo

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SleepingStandingUp · 20/12/2022 01:22

Not sure if I'm being unfair on where I expect a 7 yos social skills to be but I'm starting to worry more about DS.
Example to day. Caught bus with some kids he's been in holiday club with. I said go and sit with them if you want and I sat nearby. He came and sat by me. We were talking. Other kids discussing tree heights (🙄). He's asks me how tall ours is. I tell him. He says in normal bol voice "our tree is 6 ft" aimed at the kids, who a. prob can't hear him b. Have no idea this content is aimed at him, so they don't respond. He says it again. Same response.. I suggest he walks over, says he heard they were walking about trees and then tell them how big his is. He does this. They respond, he doesn't have anything left to say so comes back.

The talking at people without getting their attention and then being sad they don't reply is fairly typical.

AIBU to think that by yr3 he should be abel to do this better? And how do I work on that other than literally supplying him with the words every time which seemed to then stifle his natural conversation?

Is this just 7/8 yo and I should just leave him to it?

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Icecreamandapplepie · 20/12/2022 01:25

I have a just turned 8 year old boy and feel your pain!
I think boys are a bit behind girls and I'm not worrying too much.
I was a social misfit until 11 and did ok.
I think they primarily need strong family relationships at that age...

SleepingStandingUp · 20/12/2022 01:31

Thanks, helps to know its not just him! Feel he's still at the talk at people stage, and bloody hell he'll talk at anyone, he's not a shy lad in general, god help you if he sits by you on the bus and you're receptive to the initial being talked at 😂. He's at holiday club this week, we know no one and I just worry about how he fits in, if he makes friends enough to have lunch with etc. He can get a bit lost in his own world too and doesn't always notice when kids are trying to engage him, I guess because he doesn't do it himself so I always worry his development in this area isn't typical

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pinkpotatoez · 20/12/2022 01:49

Sounds like maybe he's just a bit nervous to fully insert himself, but also doesn't want to be left out? I wouldn't worry kids are all different I'm sure he will gradually realise he won't be responded to if he continues to do this.

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Icecreamandapplepie · 20/12/2022 01:57

Kids this age are still mad and unique, and that's their beauty.
Treasure it!

SleepingStandingUp · 20/12/2022 23:53

I do treasure his weirdness, I just don't want him to be lonely in it.

Today was better, they all sat together and it was a conversation he was part of so maybe it is just that initial thing of joining in. The lite girl thinks he's hysterically funny but you never know which way that one falls 😂

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