After infertility- did you consciously stay away from the things that triggered you?

[bigbunchpeonies]

Sorry for the convoluted title.

It's being a long, long time TTC for us (almost 10 years). One thing that used to really hurt me was those little photo thank you cards. I couldn't bear them.

Now I'm sitting overthinking and worrying about not making them/ having to make them.

I know this sounds really silly and indulgent. Are there other ways to do a thank you?

I’m not sure what you’re asking, sorry

When I was ttc, those photocard thank yous you get after weddings/babies used to really upset me. I know that was silly.

Now I'm pregnant and contemplating sending them out and it feels so wrong to do something that used to upset me so much.

I know what you mean. I personally just sent text msgs with my name on them.

The pain of struggling TTC after a loss taught me A LOT of things.

It changed the way i speak and behave in many subtle ways.

It has changed me in so many ways. I am sorry to hear about your loss.

We have already been given so much, which I am so grateful for, that it's hard to keep track! Some people I definitely don't have numbers for- I'm a bit of a recluse.

Can you identify who might be upset by one and do something different just for them? You might not know whos going through secondary infertility but there must be lots of older family members or friends with multiple older children close together who you can assume are a safe bet.

I just bought a pack of generic thank you cards from M&S and used them. More for convenience than anything else but I totally understand your reasoning.

I think if it bothered you, then you shouldn't do it. Scan photos always triggered me after struggling to conceive and some losses. So I've never posted a scan picture anywhere.

You can send any type of thank you card, just a plain one that says thank you on the front is fine. You could stick a photo of the baby on the ones you send to older family like grandparents etc who would be excited to have a photo.